Re: Comping for your meal

Serene wrote:

I am not Dams, but why? I have limited time and energy. Why would I
spend it on someone who regularly goes out of her way to harm me?

Because she's family. No other reason.


There are people with whom that works as a strategy. There are others
who are toxic, and any time in their presence is an invitation for
pain.


Here's the root of our disagreement. Being kind a few times a year isn't a strategy for changing them. They're not going to change. It is a strategy for changing oneself into someone who isn't pained by a toxic presence. You turn into the sort of person who shrugs her shoulders in the face of manipulation and isn't bothered by it.


I disagree.


I hear you loud and clear.


--Lia

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