Re: OT more

Anne Rogers wrote:
I know there are lots of you wanting to hear how I'm doing, so it makes sense to update. All that happened last week has really taken a toll on my mood, I'm now back feeling terrible, barely able to look after myself, let alone anyone else, when I felt like this about 10 weeks ago, it was the carefully chosen comments of a friend that I really think helped me turn the corner. Unfortunatly that's the same friend that things have really gone sour with, so I can't turn to her for support.

Modern technologies such as face book have been instrumental in me getting some support and hearing of some experiences of others that are then encouraging to me.

I'm having a really hard time with my husband, when I came downstairs in tears and trying to pull myself together enough to get to a physical therapist appointment, he read the bible to me, which really didn't help.

My MIL arrives tomorrow evening, I really hope it works out well, er really need it to.

I revealed to my parents in an email that things weren't going to well and they asked if they could do anything to help, how on earth can they help when they live 5000 miles away..

I'm functioning so bad right now, this email was extrememly difficult to write, I hope I eliminated enough mistakes for it to be readable,

Cheers
anne


I appreciate you taking the time and effort to write Anne, especially when you're feeling so bad. I WAS wondering.

It sounds like your friends and husband just don't know what to do. In your husband's case, while I realize reading the bible to you was totally inappropriate, I believe he is trying. Doing some thing so ludicrous is a sign of his desperation. He feels responsible for making you happy, even though there is very little he can do--except be supportive. He may feel like a bad husband for not being able to make you happy. He may feel like a failure and feel guilty about it. No doubt, he feels totally helpless--especially considering that men tend to want to just "fix" things. They don't understand that sometimes they can't just fix things, and the situation calls for support and comfort. Often not their strong suit.

While I know it's difficult when you're feeling so bad, you may just need to tell your husband what you need. Along the lines of "When I cry, just hold me." Or "When I'm overwhelmed, take care of some of the household chores."


I don't know the relationship between you and your MIL--however, being a woman, she might have a better clue than your husband does.

Post again when you can. We're all concerned.

Hugs,
Michelle in Nevada
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