Re: Advice please
- From: "jeanne-nzlstar*" <fancyfroggin@xxxxxxxxxx>
- Date: Wed, 1 Oct 2008 11:20:20 +1300
i agree with you, BJ.
i'd suggest abortion. she is too young and the whole family has way too many
things to deal with now to take on the massive upheaval a baby makes in a
less than ideal situation.
if she carrys to term and keeps the baby, who will care for the baby.
sounds like her mom already has enough on her plate with her own moms
condition.
when one has a baby, they should be in a position to properly care for that
child.
it is not easy and its certainly costs a lot of money.
i'm all for an abortion asap, then she can finish high school, go to
college, get some education under her belt. find a job and start saving for
a family when she is older, wiser and can do it herself.
if all that fails, perhaps she can move to Alaska. seems to me there she'd
have a friend her age in the same situation and the state can afford to look
after all of them.
j.
<call this cynical Tuesday>
"Boca Jan" wrote...
Hate to be the one to say it, but there are alternatives. There are many
people aching to have a baby. She can continue her plans to go to CC
9perhaps with an easy schedule) and then after the birth, she can pursue her
goals head on. I could also suggest abortion, however it doesn't wound like
that is an option for her.
Raising an unwanted child with the other problems in her family just doesn't
sound like a good option, but that is just my humble 2 cents.....
--
Boca Jan
Florida - Land of the Hurricanes
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<mwoz2@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
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At the moment, I find myself in a pickle.
One of our neighbors in the building has an 18-yo daughter. This past
weekend we had J. on our couch several times crying as she found out
she's pregnant. Her Mom, Jo. is a good friend of Dave's and already
knows all about the situation.
However, it seems that despite everything she's doing to support J.
through this, J. is still really upset about things. She'd been
planning to graduate from H.S. and start at the local CC in the fall.
So obviously she thinks her plans are changing and changing pretty
rapidly.
I guess Dave and I have been elected as sort of, what, maybe, favorit
Aunt and Uncle? I know Jo. is doing everything she can, but Jo. is
also trying to take care of her mother, L., who has Alzheimer's, and
is involved in a fairly nasty family dispute at the same time. The
whole family dispute has been brewing all summer, and is getting worse
not better. (Unfortunately, we know way more about this than I'd
really like to since we live right downstairs and get to witness
almost everything that takes place out in the parking lot or the
common areas. Plus, Jo. is our cleaning lady and the troublesome
family member has taken it into his head to harrass her by calling her
cell phone on days when he knows she's working for us).
My guess is J. is feeling overwhelmed and doesn't want to add more
burdens to her Mom. Hence, the crying on my couch and her leaning on
us.
But, honestly, I have no idea what to do or say. I've never been
pregnant nor a parent, so I can't even begin to imagine what fears she
has.
What do I do other than provide a shoulder to cry on, and maybe,
gently try to stear her to eating more fruits and veggies instead of
the junk food she loves.? (Neither J., nor J.'s younger sister, are
exactly in love with fruits and veggies.)
.
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