Re: OT -- Anybody belong to Classmates.com?


"Val" <ya-shur@xxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
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Kay Ahr wrote:
I'm so tempted to join. I live out here in Nevada and my schooling took
place in Cincinnati, Ohio. I do have one Cincinnati friend who lives
about an hour and a half from here. We touch base about once every ten
years or so!

I'm feeling homesick these days, but not when Cincinnati has tornadoes
or snow conditions like today! I'd like to retire in Reno, but I'd like
to get back in touch with more folks who have been influenced by those
Midwestern Values.

And who knows -- I might find more of my old high school buds around
here! Or find quilters!

Kay, try going to http://www.meetup.com/ . This is a great website if you
are looking for people in your area with a common interest, or things in
common. I found a group near me that meets twice a month for an afternoon
of Scrabble, another group that meets only 3 blocks from me that does all
kinds of quilting and sewing projects, really fun people. My son clued me
into this site several years ago. He and his wife found a 'meet up' with
a group of couples that go motorcycling to breakfast on the weekends and
another group that meets up at his nearby dog park with their 'golden's in
the evenings to run and play. I told my neighbor about meetup and she now
has a group she plays bridge with. You might give it a try. Maybe if you
make some new friends with a common interest you won't be quite so home
sick. There's lots of quilter groups on this site. Not clubs and guilds,
just all kinds of people from all walks of life who get together with
people who like to quilt. The sewing group I found is sort of like RCTQ
with warm bodies ;) One little lady shows up that doesn't even sew,
doesn't really want to, but she loves to watch and chat....not only was
she welcomed, she's been affectionately nicknamed Missy Lurker. <BG>

Val

I guess this is going to be hard to explain. I'm not looking for people
with common interests. That's easy to find. I'm looking for people with
common values. Like a common work ethic. Most teachers in my building
would not think of staying at school outside the stated contract hours.
Collaboration is pretty much unheard of. I asked one group of teachers once
what collaboration model we might like to work with -- they didn't know what
I was talking about.

People here don't do much talking to each other. It's common for people to
look at the ground when they walk past someone. I don't talk to everyone,
but I do acknowledge their existence in some way. It might be a cheery
hello or just a smile and a nod. Maybe just a wave.

I'm getting into the habit of asking folks where they are from or if they
are from Reno/Sparks. If they aren't from here, we end up trading stories
about friendlier towns. A long-term substitute teacher in my building
talked about how she had raised her children here. In later years she moved
to Oregon. When her children visited her there, they commented about how
she had moved to a town where people talk to each other. I'm beginning to
think folks here are used to staring at slot machines.

Reno/Sparks seems to be a town of strong individuals with few group ties.
(That's OK, I'm just not used to that.) Maybe it goes back to the days of
staking your silver claim and chasing others off. We recently had a college
student kidnapped and murdered. The community came together to search for
her before her body was found. But hopefully something like that is not
going to happen again. There isn't a reason for people in Reno/Sparks to
function as a community. And natives of Reno/Sparks are the ones who tell
me that. At school among staff, the idea of brainstorming and building
consensus is just unheard of and unliked. Each person wants to do it their
way and they will fight (literally) to get their way.

I'm homesick for the Midwestern and East Coast cultures and way of life.
--
Kay Ahr in NV
http://community.webshots.com/user/kayahr
to respond to me directly, remove "WESTHI" from the email address


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