Re: I am so sorry and long

I know some of what you are going through. My mother had alot of the same
issues with my grandpa (her dad) after he had a couple of sever strokes. He
was a very stubborn man and wouldn't listen to drs when they told him he
should no longer drive, etc. My mother handled alot of the issues for my
grandmother who couldn't and she didn't have much, if any help, from her 2
brothers. The one did alot of the care of the house, car, etc though. The
second didn't do anything until forced too. When it was time to put him into
long term care, my mother informed them both that they were going to be
there when he was told the news. He was very mad when mom took his keys,
put him in the care center, and made some other decisions he didn't like.
It is hard, but you have to remember your decisions are for his own good,
even if he doesn't see that. You need to pull his keys. It will be hard,
but if hurts himself or someone else, or ends up lost somewhere because you
didn't, that would be much harder.

You are in my prayers, and I'm sure everyone would agree, you are welcome to
vent here anytime you need. We'll be here to listen. As for your quilting,
it will still be there later, you have more important things to deal with
(although sometimes it does make things easier to handle when you get some
time in doesn't it!) Hang in there!!!

--
Charlotte


"Jacqueline" <learningtoquilt@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
news:51kt23pjroec3lr6vttt23sf6ofvp1n58k@xxxxxxxxxx
First, let me explain something, I am not staying away because I am
not working on anything because I have been but I just do not have
that much computer time anymore. My father, who has Alzheimer's
disease has gotten so much worse in the last month that it is scary. I
am now having to do the yard work and the house work, I have always
done the housework and cooking or have for several years now, but
never in my life have I done yard work. I always hated working
outdoors, but am beginning to like it. I am also trying to help him
with his garden, which he can't remember what he has planted, just
Sunday he asked me if he picked up the potatoes that he dug. The
potatoes were just planted about 3 weeks ago. We had planted cabbage
that day. He told me yesterday that our address was what it was 34
years ago and today he called my dog, Sugar, by the name of my
mother's dog that she had about 19 years ago. We still have not taken
his keys, mainly because my sister's want me to do all the taking and
telling and I refuse to do it alone. I live him with they just come
visit every day two or three times for hours on end, let them be the
ones that do it. I will back them but will not be the verbal one in
this issue. They way we are waiting until he gets past these
anniversaries of sorts that we have coming up. My mother will have
been dead 2 years on Friday, then the next Thursday would have been
her birthday and then Mother's day is less than two weeks from that, I
think. He was big on Mother's day though so I understand them wanting
to wait past that time. Anyway if he goes anywhere one of us tries to
go with him. I have a sister that has been out on strike from her
job, "she works in a hospital," for almost a month now and she has
been going with him, mainly because she is the one that doesn't want
him to do anything ever. After they go back to work, which I think
will be the end of this week, I will be left alone, to do all the
work, both inside and out and also go with him anywhere he wants to
go. Quilting is once again going to have to be put on the back
burner, for a while. Hopefully once I don't have to do both inside
and outside work, this winter, I can get back to my Noah's Ark Panel
and then on to other things.

I still have my squishies to mail out and am going to do so just as
soon as I catch a free minute when the PO is open and I have someone
around to stay with Dad.

I hope you all don't feel I wasted your time asking so many questions.
I do so want to do this but things have just been so hard.

I have now had both my eye surgeries and for the first time in way
over a year I am able to sit down and read a book without them
bothering me too much. I am so thankful for that.

I just have to remember to tell myself that the Lord will not put more
on a person than they can bear and have faith that all will work out.
I will continue to read and post when I have but in the mean time
please email me from time to time at either quilter at mountain-breeze
dot com or learning at gmail dot com. I have missed you folks so
much but my Dad has to come first.

Love to you all and good wishes, speedy recoveries and prayers to all
that need them, please keep me in your's.

Jacqueline in KY
Jacqueline in Kentucky, USA
http://www.mountain-breeze.com
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