Re: Y&R/ Mon. show question

Shirl:
Lastly, you've described personal problems here. "We all"
have been supportive. Not all of us post our problems here
(I'm not saying you shouldn't), but most of us have them.
Do you ever stop and think, when you post a paragraph
like the one above to me, that *maybe* someone ELSE
might be going through something every bit as painful,
serious, intense and exhausting as what you experience
and how incredibly rude and hurtful your judgmental
personal words might be when they've just come here
to be with "friends" and talk about a stupid TV show?

MarkH:
Yikes! I'm sorry to hear this.

I have young adult kids, too -- late 20s. People think once your kids
are grown, the most stressful part is done. If your kids are still
children, enjoy that time, because it doesn't necessarily get easier as
they get older. Just because we aren't all talking about it doesn't mean
that nobody else is having a hard time, and sometimes these hurtful
attacks can feel like the last straw. That sounds overly dramatic, but
when you're at the end of your rope, that's how it can feel. My bad for
assuming that those who are at their limits are more sensitive to
others' feelings...not everyone handles it that way.

I have been on the receiving end of Shirl's strongly argued
disagreements many times. The debates are fun, but it
makes the times of agreement even more fun...because
they are hard won.

Agreed. I enjoy the exchanges of different opinions, but I think most of
us feel pretty good when we see "I agree" or "+1", especially from those
we usually differ with.

I remember, when I first came here after a long respite,
two years ago. I used to call Shirl out on her negativity.
Back then, I felt she was leading an infectious, viral charge
of negativism against LML that could derail all the good
she was doing.

I don't know how/where you would have ever gotten the idea that one
person on a Usenet newsgroup would have that kind of influence/power.
I'm flattered!

We all know how that worked out :-).

*nods* LML was responsible for the negativity associated with the new
Y&R; all I did was editorialize.

Shirl
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