Re: TAN/ Soap Operas & Dialogue

DonnaB shallotpeel <shallotpeel@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Yeah, I hear myself & heard myself before I hit send. You
are the one who is insistent that I am wrong about what I mean.

I never said you were "wrong" about anything. I said that even if you
don't intend for something to be an insult or a put-down or to be
condescending, that doesn't mean it wasn't an insult or a put-down or
condescending if that's how it was heard.

If I tell you I think you write like a kindergartener (I don't, this is
JUST AN EXAMPLE), I can tell you until I'm blue in the face that I
didn't mean it as an insult -- if you took it that way, it was an
insult, and if I truly only meant that you have a way of expressing
things with the curiosity and wonder of a child, I would then attempt to
explain what I meant...although you would likely be saying, "I don't
want or need any of your explanations...thanks, but no thanks."

I am not the one with the
complaint about you. That's why one thing is in your corner & one is in mine.
But, no, it's not twisted here at all. If one, the generic one, if you, the
2nd person plural generic, meaning any of us at any times, felt the way you
have stated that you do, yes, any of us in those circumstances would be
blocked from being able to believe the other person, which would be an
impediment to effective communication,

Ya know, as I read these continuing posts, I'm not inclined to respond
until I read something like this. In your many analyses of what's
happening, the "one of us" that has the "impediment to effective
communication" is always the OTHER person -- in most cases, me!...never
you. Despite your detailed -double-talk analyses, you can't see that
your statement -- "there is NO OTHER WAY TO LOOK AT IT" -- is every bit
as much of an "impediment to effective communication" as anything you
have described.

You're not trying to make this about some absolute right or wrong,
are you? Because that doesn't work here either.

No. I've been trying to explain how some of your comments come across.

Yeah, we've been there already about you explaining to me. I already told you
that I didn't need you explaining me to me. Thanks, but no thanks.

Again, you can't see YOUR attitude as an impediment to effective
communication. You don't want to hear any explanations, but **I** am the
one with the impediment to communication! I never said I was explaining
YOU to you...I was explaining how what you SAY comes across, whether you
chose to believe it or not. I understand now, that you simply don't care
how what you say comes across...if you did, you wouldn't be so stubborn
about the possibility that MAYBE your communication isn't so effective
either.

Shirl
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