Re: OT Concerning clutter

Patricia Wadley wrote:

My dear friends. I have been reading all the replies to the original
clutter email. And David wrote something that really touched me, so
allow me to share it with you.

He wrote about finding 500 cool whip bowls with lids at his grandmothers?

Anyway, the point I want to make is that my parents' generation suffered
through the great depression and learned to NEVER throw anything away,
because you never know.

So true, and on a lesser scale for many of us who were raised
in a household just barely making ends meet.


But that wasn't what I wanted to write about. Just a little tid bit.

What I wanted to say, is did you ever receive a gift and put it away,
because it was "too nice" to use? A friend of mine cleaned out her
grandmother's home after the lady died and found all these lovely gifts
that they had given her over the years. She found beautiful nightgowns
and robes that had been carefully wrapped in tissue paper and put away,
for whenever it would be time to use such beautiful things. And the
time never came. They stayed, pristine, beautiful and never part of her
life because she felt that she was not really "worthy" to use nice
things all the time.


Guilty as charged. <sigh>

So, my friends, if you have ever put anything aside, given to you by a
friend or family member and are going, eventually, to use it at the
right time, remember the time is right now. Not later, not after you
are gone or the person who gave it to you is gone. NOW.

We all feel a little "unworthy" to use things that are so nice because
we are not wealthy and these are the things that wealthy people use in
their daily lives. We are afraid that the things will be ruined in
daily usage and so, we put them away for just that right moment. That
right dinner. That right luncheon. That right party. That right
whatever and it never comes because it isn't JUST right.


I'm sooo guilty of this. I can't justify getting out the good
china or whatever for just me and leftovers. With friends no
closer than 90 miles away, it's not like I have a lot of visitors
to pamper.

Sleep in that gorgeous nightgown. It is meant to be used. You ARE worth
it. Eat off your good china, that's why you bought it. You ARE worth
it. Drink that great wine, it is supposed to be drunk. Wear that
gorgeous cashmere scarf, that beautiful bracelet, those gorgeous pants,
that silk blouse, use that magnificent leather tote, that copper
cookware set, that silk robe, those crystal goblets if for nothing more
than a coke.

Somehow I can't see myself running to the post awful in a
suit from Talbot's just so I'm using it. lol A lot of this has
to do with time-and-place. If you don't go to the symphony,
when are you going to have an excuse to wear that nice
jewelery or fur coat? (Not that I have either! LOL!)


Any day now, I am going to do the same thing. I'm just waiting for the
right moment, you know?


Which never seems to come, at least stuck out here in the
swampland.

Nyssa, who is practically a hermit in the middle of nowhere
.