Re: OT: A Little Help Needed


Jane wrote:
> Mary said:
>
>
> >>>To imply that she was fed by tube merely for the convenience of the
> staff is wrong. You cannot feed someone by mouth if her gag reflex
> makes that process torture for the patient.
>
> I know. The fact is, however, that they didn't actually know if
> her gag reflex would in fact make feeding by mouth impossible, and her
> parents were prevented by the court from getting somebody to try and
> thereby finding out.
>
> Yes, of course, the staff might have been right in their guess--but
> it was a guess, not confirmed.>>


But, it was confirmed. Mouth-feeding was tried: it's in her
medical records which because of all the controversy, are public
record.
>
>
>
> About the last people I want to trust with this sort of decision is
> the "family." And especially the husband.>>

Speaking as the person who has won the *?%#2!!! lottery
"Who shall I give power-of-attorney to and ensure that my "living
will/advanced directive" wishes are carried out" for several people
(including but not limited to family members), I have a different view.
I think the most trustworthy person is the person whom one trusts not
to be overwhelmed by her own feelings or the input of others and that
person can be a family member.

As for spouses, why on god's green earth would one spend a
single hour with a spouse you couldn't trust to ensure that your own
wishes about your own life and death would be carried out? People in
that position don't need advance directives: they need divorce lawyers.

cheers,
Mary

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