Re: 2-party state; recording of one side of telephone conversation -- legal or not?

Paula <luvnmom627@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in
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On Nov 8, 12:01 pm, Deadrat <a...@xxxxx> wrote:
Paula <luvnmom...@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote
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I live in Illinois and would like to record _only_ my side of
telephone conversations with the non-custodial parent of my child.
Would I be in violation of Illinois law by doing so?

Thanks for any input you could provide!
Paula

Apparently in Illinois, state law and the state supreme court
disagree on this topic. There are numerous complications -- Is the
non-custodial parent in another state?

No.

Is it a cordless phone?

No, a cellular phone.

Do you want evidence for
court proceedings?

Only for use as defense (against accusations of abuse --
of him not the child), and only if necessary.

Are you recording your voice without access to the
telephone line?

Yes, digital, hand-held voice recorder.

Sorry, I should have made it clear that the questions were somewhat
rhetorical just to show how tricky the situation can be.

Sounds like the consequences of another friendly divorce. If so,
then you probably had an attorney, to whom you should direct this
question.

I'm not terribly pleased with the services of my attorney
as of late, thus the posting. He is adament that the
only issues with which the Court will concern itself are
financial ...

He's probably adamant. But what makes you think he's wrong? The court
is generally concerned with the well-being of the child, and my guess is
that way ahhead of you in line for the court's attention are children
whose welfare depends on court-ordered financial support that is not
being delivered.

the blatent disrespectful treatment to
which I am subjected in front of my child is irrelevant
according to him.

The treatment is probably blantant. But, really, do you want a court to
take its time to mediate the childish behavior of adults? If you and
your ex can't be civilized in front of each other, no matter whose fault
it is, then the solution is not to meet. Arrange through your lawyer
for drop-off and pick-up with a trusted third party

Even though she has taken the treatment to heart and has attempted to
follow suit in her treatment of me ... "Daddy ignores what you say, so
can I."

I'm gonna guess there are reasons the court chose you to be the custodial
parent. And if your description is accurate, then your ex's behavior is
probably on the list. But that means that you're the one trusted to do
the right thing.

I'm only looking to try to protect myself ...

.... when you should be looking to protect your daughter. What kind of
example is a mother playing gotcha with a tape recorder?

to have something
with which to disprove any untruths presented to the Court.

What untruths are you disproving? I thought you were trying to *prove*
"blatent disrespectful treatment"? Although I'm not sure how dispositive
just your side of the conversation would be in any case.

Thanks for your time!

My time is worth what it's costing you. Listen to your lawyer.

Chances are your kid is the one who will pick up the emotional tab for
the parental toxic behavior, and chances are that your kid will
eventually take it out on the toxic behavor.

Probably cold comfort to you now.

*** I'm not a lawyer, so this can't be legal advice. ***

*** I'm not Dr. Phil, so this can't be professional personal advice. ***

Paula
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