Re: Driving in the car with Grandma
- From: "Welches" <debbie.welchNO@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>
- Date: Thu, 10 Jul 2008 18:27:55 +0100
"Tai" <tainuitiDELETE@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
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Rosalie B. wrote:<snip>
"Tai" <tainuitiDELETE@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Just to clarify, your DIL is a full-time student so does that meanWhen my dd#1 was a full time student with a baby, she didn't need
you are also babysitting your granddaughter full time during the
study/working week?
babysitting except when she was actually in class. That would NOT
have been full time babysitting. Now it is true that she was a math
major, and had no labs or extensive library research, but her schedule
didn't require anything like a 40 hour week. When I went to school, a
full time student was 16 hours of classes. If you add some time for
going to and from school and picking the child up, it might be 25
hours at the most.
Still, five hours out of the day unable to use my car would be irksome and
we don't know anything about the OP's babysitting schedule or the DIL's
usual amount of time away from the baby. I was speaking about my own
needs in such a situation, anyway, because we don't actually know what the
babysitting arrangements are. The OP seemed most concerned about having to
restrict the places she can take the baby for "enrichment", which could
mean any number of activities the OP would like to share with the baby,
near or far. I don't think the OP is wrong to want to broaden the choices
for them both, but ultimately, as we all know, that is up to the parents
and as it should be.
But here we have a grandmother who wants to spend time with her grandchild
and wants to make that time as interesting as possible for the child, and
probably for herself. She sounds like a treasure and I can understand her
disappointment and hope she finds some way to make this work for her.
Sometimes I think I've missed out a whole chunk of a conversation. How can
you tell from what she's written that she's "a treasure"?
She has said that she's babysitting while her dil does school. We don't know
whether this is paid/how long/whether she begged her dil to do it/dil begged
her to do it.
She's felt it necessary to tell us that her dil has had an accident, which
is irrelevent to whether she herself is safe to take the child out.
She says she is a safe driver and has never had an accident with another
vehicle. So do a lot of people who have killed/injured someone on the road
"I don't understand it, it must be their fault, I'e never had an accident
before. I'm such a safe driver...".
She has also written about her dil "In other aspects of her life she seems
to like to be in control." and "I pointed out to her, that the only car we
can control is our own, and
that even when she is the driver, that is the only thing she can control."
neither of which come over as a pleasant attitude to her dil.
Debbie
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