Re: Boys only

Vickie wrote:
On Jun 26, 11:44 am, meatnub <meat...@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:
On Jun 26, 1:40 pm, Vickie <lilliputianbizz...@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:

Hey all.
Got a problem and not sure what to do.

Our kids' step-grandpa is very close with our son. He and grandma
are wonderful with the kids and it is nice to have them around.
Unfortunately grandpa seems to want to include our son in
everything, but disclude our two girls.

Gee, that sucks. What's up with that??? He should love all his
grandkids equally.


Honestly I think he does love them equally, but he just likes to spend
his time with grandson, only. It is easier, I'm sure.


Recently he asked my son to a baseball game (with fireworks at the
end) and suggested a sleepover. My middle daughter was there to hear
and said that she would love to go too. He kind of hemmed and hawed
and said he would check it out if he could get another ticket. So
far, no word.

I felt really bad for my daughter.

This has been occurring a lot, a lot, a lot, in the last year.

When all 3 children get to go to the grandparents, my son does get
plenty of one on one time with grandpa, where the girls go with
grandma. That makes sense to me, logical in a way, right? But it is
the extra special somethings that come up, where gramps picks just
my son.

Also grandma works, grandpa does not, so time is limitless for him.
Even if grandma didn't work, she might not want all her down-time
eaten up by the rugrats.

So, should I be telling the girls something to smooth things over
and if so what? I really have no clue what to say.
Should I tell grandpa he should really include the girls more or is
it his choice and the girls just need to deal?

Any ideas would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks all,
Vickie

"Hey [name of step-grandpa], you can't visit with [son] unless [girls
names] are included as well."

Simple and straight to the point.

Tell granpa to stop being such a prick about it.

This is not far at all from what I would really *like* to say.
He does leave me holding the bag when he does include my son only,
gets me going, I tell ya.



What do you mean by holding the bag Do you mean you wish you had some free
time to yourself and you see that opportunity missed? Or you feel like you
are left explaining to the girls? If it is the former, I would recommend
separating that issue out in your mind. It is lovely when grandparents care
for kids to give the parents a break, but it is really not their
responsibility. The bigger issue is the girls' hurt feelings and a general
sense of fair play.


But I'm a wimp, can't do it. :-)

Would you really say that?

Vickie


.

Relevant Pages

  • Re: Boys only
    ... wonderful with the kids and it is nice to have them around. ... Unfortunately grandpa seems to want to include our son in everything, ... attention to the grandson while ignoring the sisters. ...
    (misc.kids)
  • Re: Boys only
    ... Our kids' step-grandpa is very close with our son. ... He and grandma are ... nicely explain to the grandparents that you really like that they that you really love the way that he spends so much time and money on your son, but his sisters feel that they are left out without reason. ... Find out if there is a reason why grandpa doesn't enjoy spending time with the girls. ...
    (misc.kids)
  • Re: Boys only
    ... Our kids' step-grandpa is very close with our son. ... He and grandma are ... Unfortunately grandpa seems to want to include our son in everything, ... but disclude our two girls. ...
    (misc.kids)
  • Re: Boys only
    ... wonderful with the kids and it is nice to have them around. ... Unfortunately grandpa seems to want to include our son in everything, ... It is hard to rein grandpa in. ... grandchildren of whatever age with her (my dad died right after my 4th ...
    (misc.kids)
  • Re: Boys only
    ... are wonderful with the kids and it is nice to have them around. ... My middle daughter was there ... inviting son to do these things. ... is reining in grandpa. ...
    (misc.kids)