Re: teenager breaking curfew

On Mar 9, 2:42 pm, Nan <Badmam@#1.net> wrote:
On Sun, 9 Mar 2008 08:50:36 -0700 (PDT), Tony <gioca...@xxxxxxxxx>
wrote:

Ok, I get it. No curfew for an 18 yrs old. Thank you.

Well, count me in the camp that think an 18 year old may still need
curfew during certain times.  School nights, for instance.

And here I thought that I was the only one. With the grade *cut-off*
having been moved to early September in much of the US (DNK re
Canada), and an increasing number of kids being red-shirted, its not
unusual to turn 18 early in the senior year of high school. Besides,
while some kids at that age may be sufficiently mature to avoid the
necessity of a curfew, others are not.

What about honoring rules in both homes?  I have my own set of rules
as does my ex. I don't think I should punish her for something she did
at her mom's/ Let her deal with it.

This I agree with.  When my son was younger he'd receive whatever
consequences I set up if he broke my rules while he was with me.  When
he'd go to his dad's house for the weekend, I didn't expect his dad to
carry the consequences over to his home... it didn't make any sense.

I'm not divorced, but I would think that it would be a good idea for
the parents to have the same or similar punishments for the same
infringements. I also think that in most cases, it would be best if
punishments follow through at both homes. Let's say that Teenager was
caught with drugs, or driving with an intoxicated friend. Parent 1
imposes restrictions as a result -- Teenager may not go in a car with
Drunk Friend; Teenager is restricted from certain activities. It
doesn't make sense for Parent 2 to say *well, that happened with
Parent 1; I'm not going to impose those restrictions.* That may not
be easy to do in a divorce situation, though.

Barbara
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