Re: A Room of One's Own

Rosalie B. wrote:
Ericka Kammerer <eek@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:

Rosalie said:
Erika's attitude strikes me as being really
cold.
Any number of people have disagreed with me, but you are the
only one to call me cold. I have not taken any of your
statements of your opinions personally. I have taken your
personal comment about me personally.

I didn't want say that YOU were cold - I was trying to say that I felt
it was a cold attitude towards one's children's place in the household
once they became adults.

You seemed to be the one that was front and center emphasizing that it
was normal and natural for the parents to want to redecorate etc.
although other people were also expressing similar thoughts. It
seemed to me that there were a number of people in agreement with you
and also with the idea that once a child became an adult there was no
further obligation on the part of the parent to supply them with a
place to live I don't agree with that. It never occurred to me to
think that. I found that idea quite surprising and somewhat
unsettling.

And while I think it *is* normal and natural for some
families to have a need or a desire to repurpose space vacated
by a child who's left home, and I do think that parents do not
have an *obligation* to continue to provide for their adult
children (though whether they have an *obligation* has little
to do with whether it is *desirable* or *appropriate* for them
to do so), I certainly respect your right to do whatever you
please with your rooms.

Best wishes,
Ericka
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