Re: Do you have at least 2 children??
- From: betsy <betsy@xxxxxxxxxx>
- Date: Tue, 1 Jan 2008 07:08:24 -0800 (PST)
On Dec 25 2007, 4:53 pm, Ericka Kammerer <e...@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Zipadee wrote:
Breastfeeding my second didn't take time away from the first child.
My daughter would sit next to me when I fed my son and I could
read to her, talk to her, sing to her. My son had my body but
my daughter had my mind and she was fine.
I think this very much depends on the particular children
involved, not to mention the particular situation. A newborn who
nurses nonstop or who has colic is likely to frustrate an older
child much more than one who is less demanding. An older child
whose nose is out of joint already because of other frustrations
with the baby is more likely to act up while you're tied down
nursing than an older child who is otherwise content.
Yes, I've seen this in my own children. The children's temperments
were the most important components of the early sibling relationships.
We had a very difficult time after my second was born. By the time
he was one day old, he couldn't nurse for 5 minutes before beginning
to scream. He didn't become a good nurser until he was 4 months old.
He had to be held partly upright all night and needed to be walked at
least once an hour during the night. The afternoons were difficult
too and I spent them pacing up and down the sidewalk with him, while
my poor 2 3/4 yo trailed along behind.
My 2 3/4 yo didn't take the situation easily. She figured out how
to flood the basement while I was occupied doing diaper changes. She
constantly made the worst messes she could think of, and she has a
good imagination. She stopped sleeping through the night and it was
more than a year before she ever slept through the night again etc. I
spent his first 17 months wondering how any mother could keep more
than one child alive. After that they began playing together and
things improved.
I approached having a third with trepidation. My third turned out
to be a very easy baby. I did the best I could to ease the transition
for the older kids. I remember cooking breakfast while she nursed in
the sling when she was just one day old. In her early days, I made a
small batch of cookies with my 3 yo every morning, then when my
oldest woke up, cooked a special breakfast each day while she had her
morning cuddle time with the baby. I only took one day off
homeschooling when the baby was born.
When we reached her first summer, we went to the pool every day.
She nursed discretely in the sling while I waded around the pool
holding my son while he paddled and kicked etc. When she got tired,
she just drifted off to sleep.
We didn't have any sibling difficulties until the typical ones when
the baby got big enough to get into the big kid stuff.
--Betsy
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