Re: Do you have at least 2 children??


Thanks for sharing your story with me. That was some of the things I'm
worried about. I have little routines with my child as well. We love
to cuddle... she sleeps with us in our bed.... she pretty much loves a
lot of skin on skin touch or to be near you. And I don't want to lose
that time with her. I don't want to leave her out. But I breast feed
her and sometimes it felt like she was always sucking on my ninnies.
She wouldn't take a pacifer. I plan to breast feed the second one, and
I know that, that will take a little time away from Ariel as well and
maybe even make her jealous. What were the main ways you tried to cope
with the breastfeeding taking time away fromthe first child..
Thanks mommak

Hi,
I have 3 kids, the oldest 2 are 1.5 years apart and the little one is
3.5 years younger than the middle one (currently nearly 8 years old, 6
years old and 2.5 years old). I'll talk about breastfeeding the middle
one as then my oldest was still a toddler which is what I think you
are wondering about with your daughter having a sibling. THe first
month was hard to adjust to schedule wise, because I was used to only
having to worry about the needs of one child. After that it was fairly
easy. They are now very good friends and are extremely close (I saw
them playing together quite a lot from when my middle one was 1 year
old) though of course they also argue. When I was breastfeeding I
could still read the older one stories, help him with a puzzle and
draw with him. I would also breastfeed on the bench in the park whilst
he played in the sandpit. One thing that helps alot (at least for me)
was with the second I was a breastfeeding-pro and so I didn't need to
spend those first few weeks spending ages getting him latched on. Also
I could easily nurse discretely without showing any flesh so I could
nurse in the park or the library for example. To summarize, I didn't
feel breastfeeding took time away from the oldest.
Other things that helped:
A sling or a baby bjorn for going to the park where I still needed to
follow my oldest closely as he was still so little.
Putting a video on for the oldest whilst I bathed the baby so I could
also have some one-on-one with the baby..my oldest had a tendency to
take most of the attention.
As soon as the baby gets a little older (close to a year) there was a
lot they could do together though on different levels. e.g younger
would scribble whilst oldest drew.
Also the baby naps throughout the day when very little, so this gives
one-on-one with the oldest. If the oldest is still a toddler often
they will take one long nap in the early afternoon, which gives
individual time with the baby.
I personally think having siblings is wonderful, I am very close to my
brother (nearly 2 years younger than me) and he was a great friend as
a child, and I see how close and what good friends my kids are to each
other. Whilst it is true that the children get slightly less
individual attention and time from their parents they gain a huge
amount from their interaction with their siblings.
I hope this helps,
Helen
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