Re: I'm so over it

Sue wrote:
Hi everyone,

Does anyone have any words of wisdom or ideas on how to get my 10-year-old to stay in her bed at night. She claims she is scared, but nothing we have done is getting us any sleep at night and I am so over it. Help!

Where does she go when she gets out of bed? To your bed?
It would be really, really rough on the parents for a few nights,
but I think my inclination would be that every time she wanders
into the room, I wouldn't let her lie down. I'd get up, take her
somewhere else, have her talk about what's bothering her, and then
tuck her back in bed. Every single time.
In other words, remove the reward. (The talking thing
isn't to help you figure out what's wrong--I think you're right
in implying that this probably isn't so much about her being
actually scared of anything. It's just an excuse to sleep where
she wants to sleep. However, the talking thing is mildly annoying
if the fear is just an excuse, and if there's something else going
on and she really is scared, perhaps this will surface what's
wrong.) I suspect after a few sleepless nights for both of you,
it won't be worth her while to keep getting up, since she's not
getting what she wants.

Best wishes,
Ericka
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