Re: What to do when your son tell you he hates you.

In article <1193020781.178183.298670@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>, A father
willing to talk! says...

My son sometimes snaps and start telling me or my wife that he hate me
or her.

It usually happens when he does not follow our orders, such as take a
bath or get out of the bathroom because it is time to sleep, or he
wants something we are not willing to give him, such as toy.

We usually try to talk to him, negotiate about other activities that
he will not do if he persist on his behavior, warn him minutes ahead
that we will be moving to other activities, etc.

However, this is very difficult and frustrating. Moreover when we are
respectful of his decisions and tastes. We try to give him this he
loves and spend time with him. We also try to give him moral values
such as be nice with people, respect other people and your family, and
so on.

We usually ask to stop saying this kind of things calm down and
breath. Sometimes it works, sometime it does not. At most we ask him
to go to his room and wait until he is calm and talk to him again. In
addition, we punish him not watching TV for few days and become very
cold when we talk to him. He usually respond fine to this kind of
treatment. But I hate to do this. I would like to have a nice
conversation and fluent relationship with my son.

Suggestion are more than welcome!.


He tells you he hates you??

gasp<<

HOW as good upstanding decent parents did you EVER expect to - - -

- -

- - - NOT hear that!! :-)

Here's what you do. Self-inoculate yourselves. Designate yourselves the Great
*** and Queen Bitch of the household. When he calls you names and says he
hates you, nod your head(s) and say "yup", and keep right on with whatever you
need to do.

Banty (whose son called her a "bitch" - and answered with "hmmmmm, and that
makes YOU.....?")

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