Re: b-day party ettiquette

On Oct 1, 1:55 pm, Banty <Banty_mem...@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
In article <9fKdndFEFeUhpJzanZ2dnUVZ_gGdn...@xxxxxxxxxxx>, Ericka Kammerer
says...







redblaz...@xxxxxxxxxxx wrote:

I assumed if it didnt mention "kids" it wasnt for
kids.

That's the bottom line, really. It's the hosts'
prerogative (and responsibility) to clearly indicate who
is invited. Once they've done so, it's the responsibility
of the invited guests to accept or decline. No fishing
for additional invitations allowed. It gets murky only
if you have real reason to believe that the host was
unclear (no fair stretching that possibility too far!).
There are hosts who aren't very clear about things like
that. However, in those cases, the proper question is
not, "Can I bring mykids?" The proper questions is, "Who's
invited?" or, "Were you planning a party for adults or
families?" No fair fishing under the guise of gaining
"clarification."

Stricly, you're right. But if you had an email or flyer-on-bulletin board
invitation to a workplace barbeque, would you assume that lack of mention of
spouse or children mean neither? I hardly ever see any of that IME. They say
"Team XXX Annual Picnic 1:00 pm Saturday 16th of Really Hot Month". Ditto for
neighborhood gatherings. In which case, to be strictly correct, he woudln't
bring *her* either. So, do these say "spouse or S.O. welcome" or say "employee
and spouse or S.O."? If they did, I'd also interpret as not meaning the kiddos
can come too. But, if not..?

Banty- Hide quoted text -

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He is always the only one with kids there. What does that tell you?

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