Re: A making noise baby, a rude neighbor

On Mar 2, 11:07 am, "toypup" <toy...@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
"user" <R...@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message

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But you're ignoring the fact that some babies make far, far more than
"a little noise." Some can scream and wail loud enough to peel paint from
the walls - and for hours at a time. Wait a little longer, and there
might be a toddler throwing a tantrum loud enough to wake the dead. The
neighbor might very well have a legitimate complaint about the noise.
Just because we can tune out our own children's wails to a certain
extent doesn't mean other people can - or that we should expect them
to - especially in chronic cases.

I disagree that a baby crying leads to a toddler tantruming. I do agree
that a person living in an apartment must make reasonable accomodations, but
there's sometimes not much we can do for a crying baby. Accomodations must
go both ways.

When I lived in apartments, I knew I'd hear noises I might not want to hear.
It comes with the territory. As long as the noise is not intentionally loud
at odd hours of the night, it's fine. A crying baby is not intentionally
loud. Loud, yes, but not intentional. I'd say the neighbor needs to suck
it up or move.

I fully agree. However, there are always two sides. Now long before I
had a kid of my own, I've been extremely tolerant of screaming banshee
babies at 2am. Really. I was ok with that. I always had loads of
sympathy for the parent (having cared for such babies frequently). But
there was one time, in an apt complex with very thing walls, where the
downstairs neighbors had a 1 yr old. He made the usual night noise,
crying I could handle. But after a trip overseas, it wasn't just
crying, it was playing - throwing toys across the room, throwing toys
on the floor, pounding, etc. After a few weeks of this, I finally went
to them at 3am to talk to them - they said the baby was on "Korea
time" (where they'd returned from 3 weeks prior) and his days and
nights were mixed up. I get that. Really. But come on, surely you can
make *some* effort to get his days and nights back to EST after 3
weeks?! The mother was a SAHM, the father a science grad student who
usually went to the lab at night. So they slept all day, and let their
little darling throw his toys agains the wall ALL NIGHT LONG. For
WEEKS.

There is a limit to a neighbor's tolerance.

Not saying this is what the OP is doing at all. And living with shared
walls one must learn to tolerate a lot. (hell, even tho my neighbors
are 30 yards away, I hear their daughter crying and I'm sure they hear
mine, no big deal) But just needed to throw that out there.

.

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