Re: Rude or am I expecting too much?

toypup wrote:
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Anyway, IMO there's no such thing as *perfect* discipline that always
gets children to do exactly what we want them to do! So just you hang
on to what *you* believe is the best discipline for your child and
don't let worry over other people's attitudes derail you.

Thanks. I need to keep reminding myself that. In fact, one of the
things I detested most as a kid was my mom would discipline us
whenever visitors commented on something we were doing. Usually, we
were allowed to do it, like bike to a store a distance away. They
expressed disapproval and suddenly, we were in trouble for riding our
bike out of bounds! There were no bounds until the visitors made a
comment. I vowed never to do that. I haven't yet. I just have to
keep reminding myself.


Ugh. You poor thing. I guess your mom relied too heavily on the approval
of others, and her lack of trust in herself wound up hurting you. You can't
rely on a parent who bends to the will -- or comments! -- of others. You
never know what you will get and the boundaries are all confused.

--
nimue

"As an unwavering Republican, I have quite naturally burned more books
than I have read." Betty Bowers

English is our friend. We don't have to fight it.
Oprah


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