Re: Trouble with Grandma?


"Ericka Kammerer" <eek@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
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StephanieTheGoofy wrote:
"Ericka Kammerer" <eek@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message

I think that's the key characteristic. If you don't
want to have to say "no" a lot and spend a lot of time
redirecting and supervising closely, you pretty much have
to childproof. It seems to me that today, the large majority
choose childproofing. A generation or two ago, I think
more chose saying "no"/supervising/redirecting/etc--not
all, but more.

I remember my Mom talking about this when my DS was born. For some nutty
reason I thought there was some moral imperitive to NOT childproofing, to
teaching the child to get along in the world he entered. When I talked to
my
Mom about this she told me to just slap his hand. It hurts his feelings.
OK
I thought to myself. Do I want to hurt his feelings over a bunch of
stuff?
No. I childproofed.

My point is that methods were also different back then. Methods that hurt
of
scared kids were used all the time. And I am certain that my Mom was not
the
only one. She did it with full knowledge, too. She told me one time that
having alittle fear of your parents is a good thing. I think back on all
those times I had troubles in high school that were too big for me to
handle
that I could not go to her for help since I was afraid of her, and I
can't
concur.

Yes some people used (and still use) methods like
that. Plenty, including my parents, used gentler methods.
There have always been different ways of parenting. I don't
think that not childproofing requires hand smacking or any
practice that would be hurtful. I don't see how you can
make it as easy as childproofing (in terms of supervision
and effort), but there are many ways to go about it for
those who feel inclined in that direction.

But I think hand-slapping and other such methods was more common back then.
I do think those methods make it easier to teach a child to "behave." I
don't use such methods, but I think they work faster than constant
redirecting or shadowing or repeated no's.


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    ... reason I thought there was some moral imperitive to NOT childproofing, ... Do I want to hurt his feelings over a bunch of stuff? ... Plenty, including my parents, used gentler methods. ...
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    ... Plenty, including my parents, used gentler methods. ... think that not childproofing requires hand smacking or any ... hand smacking or having your children be afraid of you. ...
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