Re: Divorced Parents..... are we the devil?

"Tori M" (jeffandtori@xxxxxxxxxxxx) writes:
I dont think saying you dont know how to do something or someone else doesnt
know how to do something is derogitory. I think it is strength to admit
your weaknesses.

Saying someone else doesn't know how to do something is
sometimes derogatory. Maybe it's always at least a bit
derogatory. Saying someone doesn't know how "to be
a good daddy" is certainly derogatory IMO and definitely
not a good thing to say to a child about his/her own parent,
especially when it's someone you've divorced from.

"didn't know how to look after you" would be better IMO
but still not good. A "good daddy" could be someone who
visits occasionally even though he doesn't know how to
look after the child, IMO. There was another post with
a paragraph of good wording that someone else wrote better
than I could have -- better to start from there.

"Catherine Woodgold" <an588@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
news:eb2scf$obv$1@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
"Tori M" (jeffandtori@xxxxxxxxxxxx) writes:
Could be more like. Daddy didnt know how to be a good daddy so he maid
sure
(insert name for new daddy) would take good care of you. I dont see how
this is any differant then any other adoption.

It's not a good idea to say derogatory things about
the other parent like that.




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