Re: Montessori question


"toypup" <toypup@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
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That's why my IL's think they are so much better at parenting our
kids than we are. Don't get me wrong, I think they have a wealth of
experience and am eager for them to impart their wisdom. However,
one of the reasons I think the kids behave so well with them is
because the kids are in a different environment; and the kids are
not competing with each other for mom and dad's attention, something
I think all kids do.

When my kids were younger, they behaved *horribly* at my in-laws, and
I do lay the blame squarely on the in-laws. From the moment we
arrived, Little Miss and Little Master became a spoiled prince and
princess. Whatever they want, they got. And the more they got, the
more they demanded. I'd try to discipline them, and my in-laws would
say, "Oh, it's okay, really. It's hard for kids when they're in a new
place." By the time we got home, they'd be all screwed up, and it
would take me a week to get things back in control again.

I finally found my backbone and just said, "No, it's not okay." And
I'd tell them no, and they'd say, "But Grandma said I could!" and I'd
say, "That's too bad, because mom trumps grandma."

Bizby


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