Re: I want to rip this b*tch a new one


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In article <wdCmg.4270$AC6.3057@trndny08>, Stephanie Stowe says...


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In article <56pl92d5hvd8q46aat2arguh0sif1ruqcg@xxxxxxx>, Nan says...


Methinks this is *really* about extreme sensitivity regarding
overweight,
specifically. I really doubt there'd be this kind of reaction over
"her
eyes
are green - it's such a shame she wears mostly brown colors".



See I don't think you should be saying that kind of thing either. Perhaps
I
am over sensitive to my own lack of fashion sense.

Ah, but you may lack fashion sense because you're over sensitive. The
response
to a comment like that is: "what color goes well to bring out my green
eyes?"


Trust me. I lack ... both the ability and the interest. But still speaking
behind someone's back about their shortcomings, whatever they are, is not
nice. That's not to say that I disagree with the advice to the OP about how
to react.


See, I end up giving 'fashion justifications' often to DD1, as she has
one friend -- the *only* child in first grade who wears sequins,
bikinis, tank tops, and platform-ish sandals -- who is often held up by
DD1 as an 'example' -- e.g., 'Little Sally can wear sequins -- why
can't I?" These justifications have nothing to do with body type/build
-- it's more appropriacy that I hammer on (or yammer on). We dress
pretty darn conservatively, mainly because I think there's a bit of
stereotyping that I'd like to side-step, and also because I'm too darn
cheap.

And I can see from this thread that most people tend to side-step the
direct answer on questions such as these. Me, I'm still feeling proud
of myself for saying that I didn't feel that such clothes were right
for DD's job of being a first grader -- and when pressed, said that
such clothes might be more appropriate for a performer, or acrobat, not
a first grader.

Which wasn't exactly what I was thinking at all. Well, a performer of a
type, I guess.

I don't know the context of the Mom 'speaking behind the child's back,'
and it may be that the Mom said nothing of the sort. Kids in general
aren't always nice (somehow I'm inferring that the OP's child doesn't
have an older sister), and some of my feelings are clouded by feeling
that an eight-year old in a bikini (not a two-piece, but a bikini, with
little pieces of cloth held together by strings and tied) is, well,
more appropriate for a performer.

Or an acrobat, of sorts.

Caledonia

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