Re: Parent in the Hospital


Caledonia wrote:
I can completely understand the point of framing the issue -- at the
same time, it can help to acknowledge how she's feeling (one of those
'mirroring' conversations), and not just be one-way 'positive
adventures await you at X house.' I'm not advocating being apologetic
about this, but (due entirely to my own personal experiences) feel
uncomfortable with always trying to put the bright and sunny spin on
things that aren't really bright and sunny. I think that kids can see
through that (even at 4) and infer that hiding how they feel, if it's
not positive, is the acceptable (desirable) thing to do.

In this case, I would not foce the child to go to the hospital to visit
mom. The child may be protecting her own self, and realize how much she
can handle. I'd respect that and not push it too much.

With that said, sending notes and letters, taking photos or getting a
webcam or simply talking on the phone might be a good compromise to
help remain connected while also easing DD past any fears.

jen

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