Re: opinion needed


"toypup" <toypup@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
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"tmdl20" <tmdl20@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
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The problem is that I'm worried that my son is/will become spoiled and
learn that crying gets him attention. He's so different when DH is
around. It's now getting to the point that he's crying to be held by his
Dad even when I'm home. I cannot hold him for long as he's 27lbs, so I
can't even compete with Dad on this even if I wanted to... which I don't.

I've briefly mentioned this to my DH, but he plays it off as "I can't
just let him cry... he just wants to be held." I personally think that my
husband needs to not pick him up all the time and let him become more
independent. Like I said, when he's with me, he's happy as can be whether
I'm playing with him or doing dishes. The behavioour I'm seeing is
frustating me!

I think you should let it alone. Your DH and DS will work it out. They
will have a different relationship from yours. That's just how it is. If
your DH becomes annoyed with the behavior, he will put a stop to it or
find a way to work it out. Meanwhile, let it be.

I think toypup and irrational number are correct. let it be. They will work
it out. As DS and DH get older (and wiser), their relationship will change.
They will figure it out. Besides, I doubt when DS is 17, he will want DH to
pick him up and hug him all that much. ;-)

Jeff


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