Re: opinion needed

tmdl20 wrote:

My husband, on the other hand, constantly picks DS up at any little whimper... always has. My husband has difficulty getting anything done when he's alone with my son. Anytime we're all together, my husband HAS TO hand DS off to me so he can get things done, yet I'm able to get the same things done without having to rely on DH.

My gut reaction is: don't worry about it. Let
your son be as he is and let your husband deal
with it as he does. It will resolve itself in
time. Really and truly.

I bet your husband has less time to spend with
the baby, right? He works, comes home, has maybe
one hour before baby falls asleep. In the mornings,
he probably sees baby for half an hour..? On
weekends, he is torn between doing stuff around
the house and playing with baby.

Well, don't worry about it. One day, your husband
will have to get the new printer installed and he
will just have to let baby fuss about a little
bit. Or, you will have a weekly get-together
with a reading group and it will not be so
"special" anymore for DH to take care of baby,
so he will figure out his rhythm.

Just LET DH BE. Your son will not be spoiled.
At almost one year old, he still needs lots of
holding and cuddling and let DH do it. Also,
there is a good period of time from about 9 months
to 18 months where children goes through lots of
separation anxiety, so your son may be crying
about that, whether DH was ever always holding
him or not.

My experience... Similar kind of thing. DH was
great with Pillbug, but nothing got done around
the house. The theatre group asked me to do a
show, which meant rehearsals every weeknight for
a couple of months. Since DH was used to taking
care of Pillbug, it worked out great. I got to
do my show, he took care of Pillbug. Yes, I
still had to clean up when I got home, but it's
not a big deal. We all got what we wanted.

-- Anita --
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