Re: more birthday ettiquete questions


cjra wrote:
toypup wrote:
"Jeff" <kidsdoc2000@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
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How about bringing the birthday cake to school, as is the custom, but
having a play date and celebration for him and his five or six or so
closest friends, maybe do something special like go to the zoo or go
bowling or something (ok, if he still takes naps at school, he is probably
too young for bowling)? Or if you have a party with his neighborhood
friends, the 5 or 6 or so kids could come to that.

We'll probably bring the cake to school. The number of friends from school
we are inviting will probably be about 10, but I don't expect them all to
accept. In fact, since they are graduating preschool this year and some
will be on vacation, I'm not sure how many will be in town.

I want to do family and friends all together so we only have to do one party
at home, as opposed to a family party and friends party as suggested by MIL.
We don't know any neighborhood kids. My niece and nephew will be there as
well as children of our friends. I really don't want to do two parties, and
I would almost have to if we do a separate deal for the kids at a venue,
because our family and friends look forward to the birthday get together
every year. It's become a tradition. They want to celebrate our children's
birthdays, too. Besides, I don't really want to supervise a bunch of
preschoolers in areas where I might lose them.

Why would you have to have a separate party for kids at a venue??? Can
the classmate friends not also come to the family party?

Well, I've been wondering the same thing, as for what do we want to do.
The 2 pre-school friend parties ds has been to were only pre-school
friends (and I think one grandfather), both at Chuck-e-Cheese. He was
invited to one at another venue, but since he was sick and didn't go, I
don't know who else was there. Both were relatively small - about 6-8
kids.

OTOH, we've been doing a hodgepodge of stuff. Mainly family, but with
a few neighbor kids added in at ages 3 & 4. (Last year he hadn't been
at pre-school long enough to really have close enough friends to
invite.) It gets pretty big, simply because dh has a big family, so
last year was around 30 people. If I add 6-8 pre-school friends, plus
a parent for each, that's around 45 people!!! So, I can see where the
2 party thing could be attractive. My SIL still does one big party for
her 4 & 6 year olds, and so do one set of neighbors (tho I think her dd
wasn't in pre-school yet, so didn't have any pre-school friends for the
party.)

(We do bring a treat to pre-school for everyone, btw). And for dd's
2nd birthday, I'm keeping it just immediate family - which is 20 people
anyhow.

I think ds still wants to do a party at home - we have done a pinata
every year, and he's already talking about what he wants for this
year's party. And since we don't do many playdates (none with school
friends yet), a party at the house has always been a hit.

So, I guess what I'm getting at is, I've got precedent in my social
circles for both types of parties, so I think we'll be ok either way we
go. I'm not sure what we are going to do...but at least I have a
little bit of time to decide, since it's not until this summer. I do
have at least the family party date set, since we had to plan around my
grandmother's headstone dedication, but I could always add a second
party the next week for friends if we decided to do it. And since it's
summer, you never know if I'll end up with 3 kids or 12!

Irene

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