Re: Toddler and stairs

On 31 Mar 2006 08:27:36 -0800, "KR" <kay_rh@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:

Wow, I'm amazed that it worked, only knowing my own 2.5 year old.

You have to do this consistently and not give in.

You also have to have the time to wait her out, so getting up earlier
and giving her time to tantrum if necessary is part of the process.

I am having a lot of trouble getting her to listen to me and I end up
having to pick her up. I'm 34 weeks pregnant and would much rather not
have to pick her up to bring her inside the house, bring her in to
brush her teeth, etc, etc....

Maybe getting a 2.5 year old to listen should be an entirely new post,
or maybe she'll just come around!

If you want a child to listen, don't talk very much. Say things once
and then act.

Get the child's attention. Get on the child's level, touch his arm,
make eye contact.
Give the child time to comply. Wait a few minutes before you go
to them and act.
Acknowledge the child's feelings. "You don't want to come in right
now."
Give them warnings of transitions.
Use objective measures of time, like timers or the next event.
"When you finish the drawing, we need to leave." "When the timer
rings, it will be time to get your shoes on."
Give them acceptable choices. "Do you want milk or juice?"
"Do you want to play with the playdough or the blocks when we
go in?"
State your rules in positive ways. Tell them what they can do,
not what they can't do. "You can walk or crawl or bump down
the stairs."
Use when, then statements. "When we get to the grocery store,
then you can help load the cart" "When you finish two more times
on the slide, then we will say goodbye to the park and go home."

Stay calm even when your child is not calm.
Teach your child how to handle emotions through stories and role
playing and drawing.

KR

Good luck!



--
Dorothy

There is no sound, no cry in all the world
that can be heard unless someone listens ..

The Outer Limits
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