Re: Refusing to leave...


"Dave {Reply Address in.Sig}" <"noone$$"@llondel.org> wrote in message
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rzaleski@xxxxxxxxx wrote:
One of the biggest problems I am facing with my four year old is when
it comes time to leave various places. He either does the "limp
noodle" (where he pretends his legs give out), starts to cry, or simply
refuses to go. This happens when we are at his cousins' house, at
school, at his grandparents house, or at the park. I have tried
reasoning with him (asking him why he doesn't want to leave), I have
tried being stern with him (saying "We have to leave now" and that's
all). I've tried just picking him up and going. I have tried
punishing him. It seems I have tried just about everything I can think
of. Does anyone have any tips or suggestions?

If it's an appropriate place then just leave. He thinks you're not going
to leave without him so just say that you're leaving and he can come with
you if he wants to. Then do it. Most kids will have an immediate change of
heart and not want to be left behind. You'll probably only have to do it
once, after that the mere suggestion ought to be enough to encourage him
to leave.

Wouldn't work with my 2 year old if it was somewhere she wanted to be. She'd
just say "bye" and go back to play. I give her 5 minute warning, then a
count of 3, then pick her up if she doesn't come.
Otoh #1, even at this age, I would say "if you don't come now, then I won't
bring you back next week/next time" and this still works at 5yo.
Pick your actions to match the child, there's no one answer.
Debbie


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