Re: update to my dentist question


"Banty" <Banty_member@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
news:e03e2v02ov0@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
In article <AoudnVtA06kSWbnZnZ2dnUVZ_vWdnZ2d@xxxxxxxxxxxx>, bizby40
says...


"Rosalie B." <gmbeasley@xxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
news:mfe9229t1r54g6mbp1deqbr1abca2stlib@xxxxxxxxxx
"bizby40" <bizby40@xxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
But really I think the problem is more with things that are not as
extreme as a phobia, because the people with a phobia know how hard it
is to live with. It's the less obvious fears and dislikes that are
the problem - things that we don't even think about as a prejudice.

Well, sure, but this isn't what we were talking about.
Surely no one *wants* their kids to be afraid of dentists,
nor to be afraid of heights. That's not really the same
thing as passing along your dislikes.

But it's not a matter of intent.

What we have here is a parent who *is* afraid of dentist (among many other
people, apparently), *assumes* therefore her children will be. Since kids
take
their cues on these things from their parents (else we'd have been offed
by
smilodons eons ago), they pick that up.

I think what we have is a parent who recognizes that
there are things about the dentist that can be scary
to some children. I don't even know why you are
arguing against that. DD would go to playdates
with me and then sit on my lap the entire time because
she was too fearful to get up and play. She had to
be literally pried off of me at day care so that I
could go to work. Do you honestly think that
cheerfully sending her off into the room by herself
would have worked well with her? You thought
I went over the top in my description of how
scary the dentist can be, but I was writing from
her point of view. Things that I knew from
experience would be frightening for her.

DS was a whole different animal. Had both been
like him, or had he been my only, I might not have
seen the point either.

As for it being a matter of intent, I was referring
specifically to a tangent of Rosalie's.

Zorra


.

Relevant Pages

  • Re: update to my dentist question
    ... ignores the inherent scariness in such things, ... And I think it's extremely easy for a parent to transmit to ... their children that dentists and doctors are something to be feared. ... big kids don't need a parent there, ...
    (misc.kids)
  • Re: update to my dentist question
    ... passing this fear along to their children. ... Surely no one *wants* their kids to be afraid of dentists, ... It isn't that they WANT the child to be afraid of dentists. ...
    (misc.kids)
  • Re: OT--Hurricane relief done right
    ... >>>You better be afraid, very very afraid. ... >>>snap your pencil neck, don't egg him on or we might lose a number of ... > Some of 'those dentists' can drive normally sane people to desperate acts. ...
    (rec.boats)
  • Re: update to my dentist question
    ... What we have here is a parent who *is* afraid of dentist ... If her early experience is negative (I'm separated from my parents, ... potential abuser" to "I'm not scared of dentists, not me not me you got me ... stick to your mother-bear stance and insist it's the only way, OK, whatever. ...
    (misc.kids)
  • Re: Prednisone
    ... Why would anyone sue a dentist over a strep throat screen or a referral ... they are afraid to implement one because of a potential lawsuit. ... the public has more balls than some dentists. ...
    (sci.med.dentistry)