Re: kids and their furniture?

In article <mehouck-DAABD7.13265610022006@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>,
dragonlady says...

In article <dsiur3026e3@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>,
Banty <Banty_member@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:

In article <mehouck-5A404B.12435810022006@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>,
dragonlady says...

In article <a4adndm95_bgaXHenZ2dnUVZ_tSdnZ2d@xxxxxxxxxxx>,
Ericka Kammerer <eek@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:


And I keep trying to say that I'm not
*noticing* anything in that case. If someone
loaned me a widget, I would look at the widget
and what it was made of and not do anything
that would have me returning it looking any
different than I received it.

Well, the only way to be absolutely certain something is in exactly the
same condition is to not use it at all. A book that's been read WILL
have more body oils on it, and the spine WILL be bent just a little
further.

And if someone didn't want the state of their <whatever> changed in ANY
WAY -- they ought not be lending it out.

..and you wondered in a different exchange some weeks back why I'm so hesitant
to lend out my car...

Banty


No -- I understand why you're hesitant.

I was astonished that it upset you that someone else offered to drive,
that you thought that that was an out-of-line thing to do.

Well, it's a LOT to ask, because it's the first or second most expensive item a
lot of people own, and something their everyday and livelihoods very often are
dependant upon.



I know that some folks don't like having anyone else drive their car. I
feel differently, but am not offended that some folks are more --
looking for the right word here -- possessive? protective? But it
never occurred to me that, if I offered to drive (or even ASKED to drive
if it was a car I was dying to drive) the person I asked would be
offended by just being asked. How hard is it to smile and say, "No,
thanks. I don't let anyone else drive my car."

See, how I was raised, one asks only what reasonably can be given, avoiding
putting the other in the position of refusing. And even if I do say 'no',
there's a fair number of people out there who don't seem to understand that
answer. Or they're insulted "What - you don't think I can drive well?" A lot
of folks aren't as sanguine about it as you. I just dont' want to be put in
that spot.



But if you DID lend your car out, you'd expect that it would come back
with a little less tire tread, and a little more wear and tear on the
engine -- not much, not enough to notice -- but a there would be
"normal" use wear and tear. There would have to be -- it isn't possible
to drive a care WITHOUT any wear and tear.

I dunno! I've seen here what's defined as "normal wear and tear". "If it's
from what it's supposed to be USED FOR, then it's not *damage*, it's "wear and
tear". I have a Ford Explorer. I guess if I lent it out, I can expect it to
come back in whatever condition an offroad trip on Mount Tremper would leave it
in :-/

Banty

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