Re: First steps vs stage 4 diapers?

"private" <private@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
> I actually came here looking for potty training info, so I am curious. I
> know it depends on the child, and I know the signs of potty readiness, but
> in your opinion, what is the youngest age to start potty training that
will
> be effective- I am not concerned with how early she actually successfully
> potty trains, I just don't want to push something on my daughter she is
not
> ready for. She is 21 months old. Is this about the right age to start or
> have some actually started earlier? We have actually gotten her a potty
and > been trying to get her used to seeing it and sitting on it for a month
or
> two but we are not pushing and so far she likes to sit on it- she think's
> it's a toy!- but she does not like to sit on it without her diaper. We
> usually sit her on it for a second before we put her in the bathtub, and
as
> soon as she starts to fuss, we take her off.

It really depends what your philosophy is about potty training. There is
child-led training, which is what I did and then there is parent-led
training, which I tried with DD1, but it was disastrous and became a huge
power struggle. When I let the kids train when they were ready, there were
no accidents and we didn't have to go bare-bottomed. DD1 trained at 3.5
(because I pushed her so badly), DD2 trained at 2.5 and DD2 trained at 2.
IMO, the training process depends on the child and if she/he is ready in
that they know when they have to go, have the ability to get themselves to
the potty on time, and take their pants off and go and clean up after
themselves. We had the potty chair in the bathroom and they were definitely
allowed to play on it, get on it, take their clothes off and sit on it, but
I just didn't push them and I definitely didn't keep reminding them to go
(if you have to do that, IMO they are not ready). Good luck.
--
Sue (mom to three girls)




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