Re: Whose MySpace is it, anyway?
- From: "shinypenny" <shinypenny0001@xxxxxxxxx>
- Date: 22 Jan 2006 07:02:46 -0800
> MySpace is very scary indeed. For starters, you're not supposed to
> have an account unless you're 14. I can tell you of at least 30 girls
> who I know personally, who are 9 and 10, in 4th and 5th grade, who have
> accounts. I can also tell you that despite everything that they are
> told in school, online and by friends and family; they still post
> identifying information, photos and are simply oblivious to the
> possible ramifications.
> Unbeknownst to me (but not for long) my dd11 had an account.
> Fortunately she did not identify herself or use pictures, but we nipped
> that one in the bud. I have to keep careful eyes on her and the
> computer and try...yes, try, to stay one step ahead of her. It's time
> consuming, it's hard, it's challenging and it's just a part of today's
> culture. The computer has pros and cons, just like every other
> technological advance. Our office computer is very close to coming
> downstairs into an open space area of our house. I feel it calling :-)
> MySpace is an accident, or in some cases, a horror story, waiting to
> happen. Kids just _don't_ get it and we have to remember that! Ask
> yourself how old you were when you "got it". If any of you have
> children who are entering the world of using computers on their own, I
> really do suggest that you watch out for this particular website. One
> thing that I like about having msn is that I have dd set up on a
> parental control account. Anytime that she uses the computer, I get a
> log sent to me with all sites that she visited and I can check them out
> and allow her to continue to view them or I can block them.
> As time passes and she gets older, I'm going to have to figure out how
> to monitor yet not make her feel as if I"m constantly looking over her
> shoulder like a hawk. Finding that balance is an act that deserves an
> academy award!
I totally agree with you that this site is scary. It is not just for
high school students: anyone of any age can use it, and there are
people (really, ahem, weird people) my age on it (I did a search one
I am glad my kids haven't yet discovered it. If they did, they'd have
the same rules I have with IM and email: I tell them that anything they
do on the internet is NOT considered private, and is subject to my
eyes, grandma's eyes, their dad's eyes.... anyone's eyes!
Since MySpace can be read by anyone with an internet connection, that
includes mom!! If they don't want mom to read something, don't write it
on the internet. It's that simple. As for privacy, well, if they want a
conversation to be private, the internet is not the place to hold it:
pick up the phone instead!!
Moving the computer into open family area is probably a good idea. We
have laptops only, and the girls are only allowed to use them in the
main areas of the house. My kids know I will be monitoring. I don't
stand over their shoulder like a hawk, but I do come over and see what
they're doing from time to time. And they know that at any time I may
check their chat logs and email accounts. That's the deal we have, like
it or not. They know it's for their safety. If they object to my
monitoring, well, then there's an easy fix: no computer use at all.
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