Re: ABC news

Banty <Banty_member@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:

>In article <9vmoo1tt9llq604nlaebi8652okshsftkg@xxxxxxx>, Rosalie B. says...
>>
>>Ericka Kammerer <eek@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
>><snip>
>>>a decent night's sleep is not selfish or unreasonable.
>>>The question is whether it can be done without
>>>compromising the child, and obviously there are some
>>>very real concerns there. At the same time, even if
>>>I don't think that most babies can be sleeping 12 hours
>>>a night by 3 months without potentially compromising
>>>nutrition or breastfeeding, I also think that a lot
>>>of parents make less than optimal choices about
>>>nighttime parenting that lead to less sleep for parents
>>>and baby *without* being necessary to safeguard the
>>>baby's wellbeing.
>>
>>I just wanted to say - my children slept through the night or woke
>>just once from very early. The first 3 weeks or so, they'd wake every
>>3 or 4 hours, but usually by 3 months they were sleeping through or
>>waking once in the middle of the night.
>>
>>I know that some babies do not do this, but mine did, and I don't
>>think I compromised their nutrition, or their breastfeeding.
>>(Specifically my children were bf until 12 months, 8 months- when I
>>weaned her to go on a trip, 14 months-when I weaned her to move, and
>>40 months.) I resent the idea that my babies were not feed
>>appropriately or were some kind of freaks because they slept through
>>the night. They were just on the 'sleepy' side of normal.
>>
>>It is all very well to reassure parents that waking at night is normal
>>and all, but not waking is also normal. And I also think that people
>>make too much nowadays of the difficulty of bf when pacifiers or food
>>is also given.
>>
>
>I didn't take Ericka's response that way, and my son did sleep at least six
>hours straight from the day he was born.

I was reacting mostly to all the recent posts which seemed to all say
that no normal baby ever sleeps through. I realize that people were
reassuring (or not) people whose babies are waking frequently, but
they all seemed to indicate that ALL babies woke frequently and that
isn't the case.

>There are various concerns, and breastfeeding is one; that he didn't wake much
>at night may have been a reason I had some problem at first establishing
>breastfeeding. (I tried waking him once, and only once - he screamed like he
>never otherwise screamed, did *not* nurse, and took three hours to settle down.
>That's why I only did that once ..)
>
I didn't have that specific problem, but I soon learned that while I
could 'push' the schedule a little bit one way or the other (i.e. I
could go to the baby at the first whimper if I wanted them to eat
earlier, or could wait for a little bit until they got really awake if
I wanted them to eat later - for a baby that was up at night and
slept all day for instance), that it really didn't work to try to make
them adhere to a rigid schedule because it was always in flux.

I NEVER woke up a baby at night to feed them - it didn't work,
although mine would just be too sleepy to feed. And I just really
didn't have a problem establishing bf.

>This stuff varies from baby to baby.
>
Yes, and even from baby to baby in the same family.

grandma Rosalie
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