Re: Visa for father of USC children?

On Jun 5, 6:37 pm, 3bytheSea <member68...@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>
wrote:
LOL you must have more money than I do!

Seriously, I have heard that it cost hundreds of pounds and I simply
can't afford it.

Everyone makes sacrifices... I would have become Canadian in 1998 if I
could have afforded to do that... in 2000, I met a guy who I was
interested in, and he wanted me to marry him and stay with him in the
US. Being a Permanent Resident in Canada (where my father, uncles and
cousins reside), and the loss of residency was too much for me. I told
this man he either come to Canada and wait things out, or it's not
going to work. It didn't work out, because he didn't want to leave his
family either. (I would have gone to live with him no problem, but I
couldn't put 18 years of permanent residency and ties in jeopardy for
a man... Canada is all I know, I don't remember anything else, and I
couldn't afford to get citizenship, it wasn't an option). He let me go
back to Canada to try and straighten that out, and I couldn't do it...
so we ended things while I was living in Canada in 2001.

I got citizenship in 2004, four years after I thought it was a really
good thing to have, and I don't know what I missed out on because I
didn't think to take care of it as soon as possible and forget about
other things for a few months.

Life is so much easier living in a country that I'm a citizen of, and
since residency is something we can lose for one reason or another...
the idea of being deported to a country where I don't know the
customs, don't speak the language, and don't have any known family or
ties... that's pretty scary. I'd rather be a citizen. My parents
should have done that for me a long time ago, but my mother refused.
She insisted I wait until I was 18 to naturalize (in Canada), if
that's what I wanted to do.

So that's my advice from someone who "couldn't afford to naturalize",
and it took me six years to do it because I had to wait, and when I
was done waiting... I couldn't afford it (and wasn't able to proitize
and save money for it either). If you are married to your husband,
surely he has a contribution to your wellbeing and can support your
decision to become a UK citizen.

In another thread you discussed how you want to flee if I'm not
mistaken?? If you're a UK citizen, you can divorce and share custody
without taking the kids from him or vice versa. You can stay in the
same town even. I don't know how a divorce would affect your ILR, but
citizenship has many advantages that I never got to realize until I
naturalized (in Canada). And now I can vote!!

Cheers,
S.

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