Re: Paul Bernardo Admits to Another 10 Rapes

In article <260220060620131935%HesterNOSPAMmofet@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>, Hester
Mofet <HesterNOSPAMmofet@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:

I'm not sure that the catalyst or chemsitry will ever be able to be
pinpointed. I had an abusive ex whom I thought would become a serial
killer. I know this sounds corny and contrived, but I think I know a
little bit about the emotions some of these women went through, at
least when things were in the planning stages. I left before he sucked
me into any murderous or assaultive behavior, but I understand those
who could not get out before it started. I don't excuse or condone
their behavior, but I understand it.

Hester Mofet

I had one like that, too. Three (that I know of) attempts to KILL me. I
would never have become a partner, though, I would have been his first
victim. People kept telling me that he was like a "mean child" but I
was young (AKA st00pid) and thought I saw some good in him - too, I
think I was being rebellious and felt sorry for him.

Why did I finally get the courage to leave? This will *really* get you
- it wasn't the abuse (though Lord knows, I was sick of it and *knew* I
was looking at my own death) - I got pregnant and his words when I told
him (again st00pid):

I sure hope it's a girl - I've always wanted to see what incest was
like!" I think it's "Duh" to say that I left the next day after he left
for work, and had my own apartment and divorce proceedings in motion
by the end of the week. It's funny how the thought of a whack job
hurting you - you become almost resigned to it. But once he threatens
your young, you're fricking wonder woman and will do whatever necessary
to protect your child. I ended up having a confrontation with him and
ended up kicking his ass (I had started martial arts and was *really*
good - my sensai said it was the rage I felt - or some sort of BS like
that). I beat the *** out of him (but not as bad as he had sdone to me
over 5 years of marriage) and he slunk away like a rat. If it hadn't
have been for my girly, I would *never* have had the courage to do
that. I tell her all the time that she saved my life.

But the epilogue is that once it was *over* (AKA me and my girly in
"hiding" - not to mention a comfrontation in the end a la J Lopez in
that movie (?) - but I didn't kill him, just finally kicked his ass) -
he ended up being a "normal" person to my knowledge. Right now, he
lives in OK with his boyfriend. I know this because the thought of him
being in the same state as me and my girly scares the ***** out of me.
Each year, I hire a PI to find him and check him out. It's expensive,
but I consider it well worth it. My DD's school has a current picture
of him (courtesy of my PI) and knows *NOT* to let him near her or on
the school grounds. Thank goodness I always take the extra step of
"sucking up" to the staff so they take extra care in watching out.

Once they *did* call me to tell me that a man fitting his description
came to the school. I live *right next door* so I rushed over, took a
look at the guy and met the cops out front (they called them, not me -
being on the safe side, I guess) and it was a false alarm. Like I said,
it scares the everloving ***** out of me to think that he could be
anywhere near us. Luckily, I have a hubby who would die to protect us
and goes the extra mile to make sure that we're safe (security alarms,
panic room, etc). All because he thinks that my ex could go wonko and
come back for us and hurt us.

I think that's why I wonder about the chemistry thing - once he and I
were no longer together and I was "out of sight, out of mind" he
apparently was not longer a whack job?? He's got a normal job, normal
life and has stayed out of jail (though he never served time to begin
with). So was it bad "chemistry" between he and I?? I wonder . . .

--
MacGirl

"So for you this is just a good time, but for me this is what I call "life"
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