Re: OT:An observation... and rant, I suppose

"Cindy Murray":

I think it's sad that parents seem to be becoming increasingly detached
from their babies. IMHO it is down to the NUMEROUS television programs
extoling the virtues of discipline and routine. There was a program in
the UK a few months ago in which Gina Ford (supposed parenting guru)
convinced the new parents to put their newborn child in their cot at 7pm
and not, under ANY circumstances, to re-enter the baby's room until 7am.
I couldn't believe it. A newborn baby's stomach is the size of a walnut
and it is physically impossible for them to go 12 hours without a feed.
That poor baby must have been starving.

OMG! That's terrible! When I had both my children, they ate every 2
hours or so. Yeah, it's inconvenient to get up and feed a baby in the
middle of the night, but it comes with the territory. If you don't like
it, don't have kids! Our babies didn't even sleep in their own room until
they were old enough to sleep most of the way through the night without
waking....

I know it is!! But people actually buy the woman's books and follow her
advice. I know how terrifying it is to be a first-time parent and I will
admit to buying virtually all the parenting books on the market. However, I
quickly realised that the books really couldn't tell me anything about
raising my daughter. She does have a fairly strict routine in place, but
she is a happy, loved baby at the same time.

Ms Ford also said that babies were only to have an hour of cuddle time
per day and anything more would spoil them. I was fuming!

Again, I've always thought and been taught just the opposite! We cuddled
and played with our babies all the time. Still do. My son is now 15.
His sister is 24. As a result, they are happy, affectionate people. If
you don't cuddle your baby, they don't ever learn to give or accept
affection.

I agree with you...Anya gets as many cuddles as she wants. I love the
cuddles just as much as she does. :)

Because of women like Gina Ford, parents are terrified of being too soft
and raising a spoiled child. "Spare the rod and spoil the child" springs
to mind. Personally I think it's all a load oh hooey (as my grandmother
would say).

Spoiling a child comes from not providing discipline, not from giving too
much affection.

Good point! I never looked at it like that.

This woman is twisted. Has anyone researched her own upbringing? Perhaps
she had a helicopter mom or something, who just couldn't let go?

Don't really know. Whenever she is on telly she talks about how she had a
structured childhood but that's all she says.

Babies need love and affection as well as plenty of cuddle time. Anya has
the best of both worlds - she gets as many cuddles as she wants while at
the same time sticking to a reasonably strict feeding and sleeping
routine.

I had the coolest book with my youngest. It was all about giving baby a
massage. We made it a post-bath ritual, and it always made him so relaxed
and happy. Hey, if adults enjoy it, why wouldn't a baby? I loved it,
too. There's nothing sweeter than bare nekkid baby skin. :)

I borrowed a similar book and Anya gets a massage every night before bed
now. She loves it...I love it...works out well

Personaly, I would love to see more parents carrying their babies and
cuddling their babies. All hail Dr Spock! :)

Here! Here!

Cindy
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