Re: OT:Why are tentative employers such jerks?

10, because I could *so* relate.

Sending a prayer that the phone rings today for your SO, and that you find a
way to detach.
With hope and heart,
Kathleen

--
He Himself is the fuel our spirits were designed to burn,
or the food our spirits were designed to feed on. There is no other.
~ C.S.Lewis
"Jbeth" <jbethtoday*getridofthisfirst*@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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I just don't understand the mentality of people who advertise for help,
give an interview, pretty much tell you that you've got the job, ask
when you can start..several times.., tell you your pay schedule, then
promise to call the next day after they check your references. They even
offered to buck up early and pay for some prescription safety
eyeglasses, thanks but no thanks, we take care of ourselves.

Then...they don't fucking call.

BF just went through this, and I guess I did too, both of us not smoking
thank goodness, but damnit, I had to go to the 7-11 for milk tonight,
and the thought crossed my mind, hmmm...if I buy a pack now, smoke a
few, and toss it, nobody will ever know..BF is asleep and tucked in for
the night.

This was his big break, he was *so* happy, a big company, union wages,
benefits, rrsp's, etcetera, room for promotions, in house training. He
is educated but not with a college degree nor any trade school stuff so
has basically stuck with entry level labour jobs his whole life, never
chosing a company that can offer anything better than what you get on
day one. Just scraping by he was, and never getting recognition for his
work, ever, except for a measly paycheck. He works his ass off, no
booze, drugs, etcetera.

I got really caught up in this, cuz, well, we are long term, 8 years
now, and this would have made an immediate and positive change in our
lives, new job, new city, new vehicle, new house. We hate our situation
right now, crappy house, crappy neighbours, crappy city, but have to
stick around here because that is where his work is. Not only was I
looking forward to a nice change, but he was just so frigging happy,
like a new man, his eyes were bright, and he stood tall and proud.

These fuckers never called today. They checked his reference, but that
got all screwed up because some idiot at his work answered the phone and
told the caller that he has never heard of the supervisor!

My work is fairly portable so moving is no biggy for me. I have the
college/association/trade school/artist education and skills that I use
everyday and I think he feels like my shadow, jealous, but I'm a
neurotic driven person, and enjoy education, it's easy for me so I just
go. He had problems in college and had to drop out, I've never gotten
the gyst(sp) of why he dropped out, I am guessing it has to do with
failing but not going to ask. It sucks because I have so many options,
and a lot of oppurtunites and job offers, and I turn them all away cuz I
am not interested, but he is somebody who would love these and rarely do
they come around.

So what does he do? Sulks. Goes to bed as soon as he gets home, skips
having dinner. Well....that sure is a great fucking way to solve his
problems, bet this is the root of many of his problems. ooohhhh..I don't
want his problems to be mine, but it is so hard to not get enmeshed when
you live together.

There is a lot of tension in my house right now, my books are done, but
now its on to the taxes tomorrow, deadline for filing is approaching. My
back/hip/arm/shoulder all hurt, probably from lack of full range of
motion on a regular basis, but I am too busy to do much, either post or
do Pilates, and after 7-11, thought it was time to post.

It has been a shitty pissy rotten fucking day and I am going to go to
bed and cry cuz if I don't I am going to let that junkie thinking take
over and I don't want to smoke.

*** the big corporate companies that treat the little people like
toilet paper, who the *** could do this to somebody? It was mean and
cruel.

And *** my newsreader for not having spell check, I have to do it on
the fly myself, and when you write fast, mistakes happen, there is no
time to fix my errors or look them up, all the passion is gone by then,
so big fucking whoop. Sppel Cheqqque is vurrry nise two haff, buttt I
donnnnt' half it,,: missspeled worids halve never hampurred mee froom
reeeedeeng a poast annn eye jusss donnn care eff yeee cannn neither
sppel nor dew propper grandmer eeithor ass eye weeel reeed yerrr poasts
aniways.

As pissed as I am, they could very well have a good reason for not
calling Thursday, and I do cross my fingers they call on Friday.

Jbeth off to bed. Smoke free for 4M and a few days.


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