Re: Coming out the closet VV long

Thanks for Sharing, ChrisB

ChrisB <chris.B@xxxxxxxxxxx> penned.wrote.stated:
: My daughter developed Bipolar disorder when her longed for baby (7 long
: years actually) was 2 months old. She admitted herself to a mental hospital
: and I had to drop everything and go to cope. It was devastating for us all.
: So I certainly do have a little understanding of what has happened to you.
: I also know that whilst social service employees can be angels, they can
: also be the opposite!
: So glad that you seem to have come to terms with all this and that you put
: your sons' well-being before your own. I will pray that time will fly for
: you until you get Joanna home and that by then, you and your husband will be
: confident in your quits.
: My daughter was never able to try for another child herself because of the
: medication but she is in the process of adopting a little charmer called
: Georgie.
: You're doing great April,
: ChrisB
: "april & joanna" <bowmanzoo@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
: news:aNGdnab_O-hP_DnZRVnyhw@xxxxxxxxx
:> Hi
:>
:> I feel a need to write to you all, I think it might seem that I post a lot
:> about myself but don't do a lot of posting back, honestly i'm not being a
:> selfish cow and I really do read all posts and I am so proud of everybody
:> that has quit and managed to stay quit. I am also proud of the back
:> sliders but guys if you are reading this then you need to hop right back
:> on the wagon so you can be a healthy buzzing bee. There is a reason why I
:> dont post as often as I should and it is mainly mental exhausten, back in
:> 1999 when I was 18 years old I gave birth to a lovely little boy but sadly
:> for one reason and another I suffered from surveve postnanal depression
:> and because I didnt have suppose I felt unable to cope and I had a social
:> worked involved at the time and she kind of decided that it was best for
:> my son to be adopted, it went down on record that I had very bad mental
:> health problem, I then stupidly fell pregnant again in 2001 and again
:> didnt cope and my 2nd lovely son was adopted, I then had a big gap in my
:> life and sorted some of my issues out which I should have done in the
:> beginning and then after a while I fell pregnant in April of last year, I
:> was very upfront with my health care providers and months went by and I
:> didnt hear nothing from social workers so I presumed all was well and they
:> would leave me to be a mum this time but 4 weeks before I was due to give
:> birth my midwife came out and said i'm really sorry I should have told
:> social services right at the beginning that you are pregnant but somehow
:> we didnt, a week later I had a phonecall from a socialworker who wanted to
:> meet with us, we met with him and he read through past papers, a decision
:> was made that because I didnt have an uptodate mental health and parenting
:> assessment that they wanted to place Joanna into foster so they could be
:> carried out. Well five months later my name has been just about been
:> cleared of being a bad mum, I had an upto date psyciatrist assessment that
:> said that I had suffered VERY bad postnatal depression with my boys and
:> had I been given the correct support then I would still have my boys today
:> and that I no longer appear to suffer postnatal depression or any other
:> depression he was very angry with how I had been treated and the boys
:> seperated from there mum who was ill and just needed some help. I cried
:> for days because it was a new hurt, I should never have lost my boys but I
:> couldnt do anything about that now because I had a daughter to fight for
:> and bring home, we have had excellent contact assessments done and we are
:> now just going through a intensive family programe to get bond and
:> attachement fully formed, ways for me to find coping stratergys ect and we
:> are hoping Joanna will be home in about 13 weeks time. This is mainly why
:> I dont post to everyone but I am glad that I have now got whats been
:> getting me down for the last few months of my chest, this was also the
:> reason I bust my last quit but I am SOOOOO proud that I have managed to
:> quit again under tremendos stress. We have been told that when Joanna is
:> firmly home we can then do somethign about the way I was treated with the
:> boys and get something in there file, we will unfortuanly never get their
:> adoption overturned because that is bristish law for you and to be honest
:> I dont think I could do that to them, they are so settled and are doing so
:> well but it would be nice to meet them or something. I hope this doesnt
:> change the way you all think about me!!!!
:>
:> April
:>


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