Re: Coming out the closet VV long

"Change the way" I think about you?!?!?!
April, I didn't think it was possible that I could be MORE proud of you
than I am.
I was wrong.

I am dumbstruck, I am so proud of you.
You are just a brave, brave, brave girl, and we are here for you.
Please don't try to bear this on your own if our giving you a shoulder
and a hug could help.

with love and prayers to you sweetie,
Stephanie

april & joanna wrote:
Hi

I feel a need to write to you all, I think it might seem that I post a lot
about myself but don't do a lot of posting back, honestly i'm not being a
selfish cow and I really do read all posts and I am so proud of everybody
that has quit and managed to stay quit. I am also proud of the back sliders
but guys if you are reading this then you need to hop right back on the
wagon so you can be a healthy buzzing bee. There is a reason why I dont post
as often as I should and it is mainly mental exhausten, back in 1999 when I
was 18 years old I gave birth to a lovely little boy but sadly for one
reason and another I suffered from surveve postnanal depression and because
I didnt have suppose I felt unable to cope and I had a social worked
involved at the time and she kind of decided that it was best for my son to
be adopted, it went down on record that I had very bad mental health
problem, I then stupidly fell pregnant again in 2001 and again didnt cope
and my 2nd lovely son was adopted, I then had a big gap in my life and
sorted some of my issues out which I should have done in the beginning and
then after a while I fell pregnant in April of last year, I was very upfront
with my health care providers and months went by and I didnt hear nothing
from social workers so I presumed all was well and they would leave me to be
a mum this time but 4 weeks before I was due to give birth my midwife came
out and said i'm really sorry I should have told social services right at
the beginning that you are pregnant but somehow we didnt, a week later I had
a phonecall from a socialworker who wanted to meet with us, we met with him
and he read through past papers, a decision was made that because I didnt
have an uptodate mental health and parenting assessment that they wanted to
place Joanna into foster so they could be carried out. Well five months
later my name has been just about been cleared of being a bad mum, I had an
upto date psyciatrist assessment that said that I had suffered VERY bad
postnatal depression with my boys and had I been given the correct support
then I would still have my boys today and that I no longer appear to suffer
postnatal depression or any other depression he was very angry with how I
had been treated and the boys seperated from there mum who was ill and just
needed some help. I cried for days because it was a new hurt, I should never
have lost my boys but I couldnt do anything about that now because I had a
daughter to fight for and bring home, we have had excellent contact
assessments done and we are now just going through a intensive family
programe to get bond and attachement fully formed, ways for me to find
coping stratergys ect and we are hoping Joanna will be home in about 13
weeks time. This is mainly why I dont post to everyone but I am glad that I
have now got whats been getting me down for the last few months of my chest,
this was also the reason I bust my last quit but I am SOOOOO proud that I
have managed to quit again under tremendos stress. We have been told that
when Joanna is firmly home we can then do somethign about the way I was
treated with the boys and get something in there file, we will unfortuanly
never get their adoption overturned because that is bristish law for you and
to be honest I dont think I could do that to them, they are so settled and
are doing so well but it would be nice to meet them or something. I hope
this doesnt change the way you all think about me!!!!

April

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