Re: Lynn & Echo

I know what u mean Lynn and since we found out about the baby and they told
me they would be building a home in the spring i had to take a long hard
look at this.....at first i went all to hell.....my son to has a learning
disability but is great with his hands and has very much common sence....it
seems as he gets older u can't notice it.....he has a good job and does it
well but with his hands.....any way i finally realized he does need to get
out on his own for his sake he will be a daddy very soon.....i guess since
this is my first grandchild and will be my only one i wanted and needed to
help all i could to get this baby safe in the world and besides praying the
next best thing i could do was take care of Becky all i could....no matter
what it was and it won't last long.....but i hope long enough for the baby
to be ok.....then when i hold it and tell her i love her she will be mom and
dads girl for me to spoil.....i can't keep her full time i am disabled and
really have a hard time......i had to quit doing hair a little over 2 yrs
ago and now am on disability....so mom is going to have to tell them this is
as far as i can go.....to be honest i have gone futher than i ever thought i
could and on top of that quitting smokeing.....which i am very happy i did i
still feel very bad but one day that part wil get better.....anyway thanks
Lynn i needed this and needed to think it through also.....hugs Patsy



"Lynn" <lynn.scott@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
news:teo9f.116741$Ph4.3583849@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
> Patsy I am a very over protective mom, and find it extremely difficuit to
> let the kids grow up and have a bit of freedom.My oldest has a learning
> disability and I worry constantly But i know if I don't let them learn
> for themselves and take some chances, they will never learn. You aren't
> doing any favors for him ,his wife, or yourself by coddling a 34 year old
> man.
>
> They need to spread their wings and fly solo. It is great that you are
> there to help when they fall but be honest with yourself. you won't be
> there forever and in order for them to fall they have to let go. And it
> might be time for you to get other interests and do some things outside
> the home. Caregiving is a huge responsibility and it wears a person out.
>
> Its ok to worry and help out and even take them in when times get rough
> and they are in a bind but making his life revolve around you isn't fair.
>
> I hope I never have to deal with losing a son like you and to be honest I
> probably would act the same way by wrapping the remaining son in a cocoon
> of cotton balls. I am not sure how I would get over it but I would need
> help from a trained professionals ( the over protective side not the death
> side cause you never would get over that I don't think).and I hope someone
> would tell me what I am doing is harming not helping.
>
> I am not saying walk out and stop doing everything right away and leave
> the kids to fend for themselves without warning. I am saying have a honest
> talk to yourself then to your husband, then to a doctor and find some ways
> you can let go of that rope that is tying you and your sons life in a
> tight knot of fear. I know you want more for your son and that he will be
> able to fly .
>
> I know it sounds preachie
> --
> :) Lynn
> OF+HOF+
> Leaper
> Wise people don't need advice. Fools won't take it.
> "Memaw" <dianneatplay@xxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
> news:5hb9f.38915$RG4.5007@xxxxxxxxxxx
>> thanks Lynn but i know it is my fault since my son was killed i have
>> spoiled this one rotten and he is still in shock from going to be a daddy
>> he will soon be 34 and never lived away from home....but will be moveing
>> out next year and will kill me but i know he must for his sake and he
>> will have his own little family too......after he got married 7 yrs ago
>> it really helped me with the death of my son i know had a daughter too
>> even if she is a DIL.....but he is doing more now to help and is trying
>> he treats her like a baby but both are still used to me doing everything
>> and ur right that has to stop i am worn out and quiting smoking doesn't
>> help either it wears u out .....all this bull *** in the begining now
>> mom u can't do this or do that went out the door when she started haveing
>> problems now its mom do this do that.....but mom is pooped......i will
>> have a talk with him and thank u and echo...:).....for careing......hugs
>> Patsy
>>
>>
>>
>>
>> "Lynn" <lynn.scott@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
>> news:H739f.116334$Ph4.3564665@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
>>> Patsy, why are you the primary care giver for your DIL? what is your son
>>> doing? I know you can't wait for your first grandchild but you need to
>>> look after yourself first in order to look after anyone else.
>>>
>>> Kick your son in the *** and tell him to get into the game. no more
>>> hunting trips for him. his place is to be beside his wife looking after
>>> her.
>>>
>>> --
>>> :) Lynn
>>> OF+HOF+
>>> Leaper
>>> Wise people don't need advice. Fools won't take it.
>>> "Memaw" <dianneatplay@xxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
>>> news:jmX8f.31890$E17.30307@xxxxxxxxxxx
>>>> thanks echo and marvie i have an appointment with the dr tuesday if the
>>>> baby isn't here.....today my DIL started haveing pain in her back uh
>>>> oh....well i feel she has gone far enough now that she and the baby
>>>> were they to come now would have a much better chance than back in
>>>> sept....today has be a little better for me maybe it does just take
>>>> time when u step down from a patch but i can tell the craves are worse
>>>> but no i won't smoke and i will go to the dr....*smile*.....now marvie
>>>> are u telling me ur normal....lmao.....warm hugs back sweety.....Patsy
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> "Marvin The Paranoid Android" <marvinparanoidandroid@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote
>>>> in message news:eLT8f.14896$Nj3.1422769@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
>>>>> Memaw wrote:
>>>>>> i am now on the 14 mg nicoderm cq patches and i am haveing a hard
>>>>>> time....i am craveing much more and i want to sleep all the
>>>>>> time.....i feel kinda funny in the head.....of course everyone says i
>>>>>> am funny in the head anyway....*grin*......seriously what could be
>>>>>> going on i don't want to loose this quit and i know i won't if i
>>>>>> don't ever put a cigg in my mouth......i don't even ever want even
>>>>>> one puff again......also i kinda have the chitters damn can't spell
>>>>>> it anyway am very shakey and nervous....and don't have much of an
>>>>>> appitite.....can anyone tell me if this is normal and i sure have no
>>>>>> energy......i just don't know what is going on here.....thanks Patsy
>>>>>
>>>>> Hi you!
>>>>>
>>>>> I know when I stepped down a level it took usually two days to get
>>>>> back to 'normal'.
>>>>>
>>>>> I would check in with the doctor too tho ...
>>>>>
>>>>> Warm hugs,
>>>>> Marvie
>>>>
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