Re: 99 Days & Scrounging in a Gutter Tonight

I think it is called *different strokes for different folks* and no one
person can be everything to everybody - but it is really a matter of
*sharing*
Somebody will do some one-on-one, another will approach it with humor, and
yet another will post what is hopefully a helpful and informative article,
and yet another will bleed their heart out on this ng and it will be
absorbed - and not by *everybody* but by somebody.

Every quitter is *different and has unique needs* to persue avenues that
will work for them. The collective desires the result of *being and staying
QUIT* There is a common goal or this group would not exist.

The lecturing may have worked at one time, who is to say it won't work now
for some? Dunno - tough love may have worked - maybe does not work now. The
important thing to remember is that you can only LEARN from history and you
can't ever really go back and RE-LIVE history . Yeah I know - I have heard
time and again how things *used to be* - well that is correct - things *used
to be that way* but this is a new day and a new time and the middle of
another decade and change is all part of this process. The difference
between *then and now* is that so much more is known about this addiction
because of studies, google, research, etc and so on.

That is all I had to say.

Bev

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"Kimberly" <goldenrulzNOJUNK@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
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> "steveb" <me@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
> news:2j2kf1haq3iveuvbkbt017ft8g4s3o6dba@xxxxxxxxxx
> | On Wed, 10 Aug 2005 01:31:40 -0400, "Kimberly"
> | <goldenrulzNOJUNK@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
> |
> | >I'm beginning to like the 'mean spirited' people moniker. Maybe it's
> true.
> |
> | I was reamed out recently by a friend, for something silly I did.
> |
> | My first (internal) reaction was to think he was being mean ...
> | although I wasn't so polite.
> |
> | He wasn't being mean, he was right. I just didn't like it.
> |
> | steveb
>
> I have my own selfish reasons for being in this group. I've been taking
> an
> inventory so I'm trying on a few hats to see if they fit. I've stepped
> back
> a bit as I see it but I still have a great interest in many things that
> are
> going on here. As you might know (or not) I stay as far away from the
> cliques and internal rumblings as is possible when I've 'known' most of
> the
> players for years now. It's a balancing act and I'm getting tired. (As
> in
> fence sitting? Maybe. Maybe not. I see it as wanting to get along.) Of
> course I have my opinions that I mostly keep them to myself.
>
> I don't see how I can be supportive when I'm playing adolescent games. I
> see quitting as such a growth process. Anyone can post articles ( I'm not
> saying anything is wrong with this.) or other second-hand sayings or jokes
> or a myriad of other things to the group. What I see as the backbone, if
> a
> body, or the foundation, as a building, is when people are honest with
> themselves and the group. I see that as the missing link I keep looking
> for
> that I had when I first quit. There was also much lecturing which I can't
> say I miss but it might have helped as I've had one hell of a quit
> considering it's my first. I'm a happy quitter and not one person saying
> there's no way that can happen is going to change it. If I can portray
> that
> to just one person then my job here hasn't been in vain.
>
> Well I've gone on and on to get to a point.
>
> I don't see us as friends, Steve. Although that could change. I'm always
> open to positive things happening in my life. We are barely aquaintances
> around here. I've seldom agreed with some of the things I've seen you say
> and do. I want to say that I appreciate your honesty. What I appreciate
> even more is that you see it in me. Such a lesson there in not being
> dismissive.
>
> I guess that's why the original post in this thread snagged on my brain.
> I
> love honestly and humor in the posts here. It really strikes a cord and
> there are so few of them these days. Coleslaw comes to mind. Still
> chuckling over that one. To have someone come around and try to tell us
> (forcefed) that the original post in this thread was supposed to be funny
> and well written... well let's just leave it at I beg to differ.
>
> Some people will see this as 'mean spirited'. That's ok. I know the
> original intent. That's why I'll accept the moniker.
>
> Kimberly
>
>


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