Re: Bck from Denver

On Tue, 26 Jul 2005 01:28:54 GMT, GoddessXena
<goddessxena@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:

>BessieBee wrote:
>
>> Mom was a wonderful lady and will be missed by a lot of people.
>> There's a lot more I want to say, but the thoughts just aren't coming
>> together right now.
>
>Damn. I'm sorry you lost your mom.
>
>I'm very happy for both of you that you were there with her to the end.
> You're a fine daughter. And a non-smoker.

I'm certainly not the best daughter any mother ever had, but I loved
my mother very much.

I'm the eldest of 3. Several years ago Mom moved to Denver, CO to be
close to my sister - never married, live life to the fullest Lisa.
>From the time Lisa was a toddler everyone said she and Mom were like
two peas in a pod. That remained true until Mom's death. Lisa was
there for Mom every single day for years. She will have the hardest
time dealing with the hole in her life.

I'm still struggling with the fact that when Mom took her last breath
she was alone. She was in a beautifully run nursing home and the
staff there were wonderful. When she was moved to a room that offered
more intense medical care we knew the end was very near. I asked
everyone involved, the CNA most involved with Mom, the director of
nursing, the hospice volunteers, for a reclining chair so I (or
another family member) could spend the night. I wanted to make sure
that Mom wasn't alone when she passed away. She just passed away a
little more quickly than anyone expected. She'd hung on much longer
than the doctors thought she might, but her death was still a day or
so sooner than any of us thought.

Mom died sometime Sunday morning. She was found at 9:40AM. We got
the call as we were leaving her apartment to go visit. I'd already
made plans to stay with her that night.

Mom never made any kind of funeral arrangements. The only thing we
knew was that she wanted to be cremated. It was a joke between her
and me that "if" she died one day...

The chaplain with the hospice program gave us a list of funeral homes
in Denver and recommended only 3 of them. After much prodding she
suggested we contact the Monarch Society. We did and it was a
decision my sister, brother and I are glad we made.

Mom was cremated on Thursday, July 21. The Monarch Society is a
family owned business and they offer 'no frills' types of cremation or
burial, just what Mom would have wanted. Everything there was handled
with a great deal of compassion and dignity and class. I would very
highly recommend the Monarch Society to anyone making arrangements for
the final disposition of a loved one.

I will always be sorry I wasn't with Mom when she took her final
breath. It seems such a sad irony that the woman who was such a
social being in her early marriage turned into such a hermit later in
life and then died all alone.

As I said in an earlier post, the one thing that's made me smile
through all this was the idea that Mom was able to meet Charlie, our
childhood 'wonder' dog, at Rainbow Bridge. (Dad was the first of our
immediate family to pass away, but he was not a dog person and never
truly appreciated the fact that we had the best dog that ever lived.
At best he tolerated Charlie. Mom adored Charlie, {a Heinz 57, but
probably 98% Beagle) and I have no problem picturing her, young and
robust, running to meet Charlie in the green fields by the bridge.
That image has brought an ocean of tears, but also a wonderful feeling
of peace for both of them. May the rest in peace together.

BessieBee

"Life is hard. It?s even harder if you?re stupid." ? Anonymous
.

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