Re: disability and divorce settlement

On Wed, 24 Aug 2005 17:49:50 GMT, "bobbyD" <phatbhatREMOVE@xxxxxxxxx>
wrote:

<start of snips so this doesn't waste a bunch of band width>

>>>i had a court session last may,, my wife's lawyer was trying to make me
>>>undergo extensive physical and occupational assessment from a 3rd party,,
>>
>> Sounds fair dozen't it?
>
>no it doesnt,, if sdhe collected my disability tax credit for 7 years and
>wrote on my income tax i was dependant disabled home maker??? it does not
>sound fair to me!!!! sounds vindictive

Maybe I was wrong? Weren't you a "dependant disabled home maker"?
>
>
>>>he said- ''i have a friend with Ms and he is fine'' in court,,
>>> i freaked and told him i have 5 friends with Ms and they are all DEAD!!!
>>>this last year!!!
>>
>> But don't we all know people with MS that are still healthy 20 years
>> after diagnosis?
>> I do.
>
>yes but you dont see my point do you,,

Sure I do, I was looking at it from both sides trying to be fair.
>
> he was making the point that MS is not so BAD!!!!! and how could i be
>disabled when he has a friend that is ok,, my counterpoint was that i have 5
>frinds who are DEAD!!!!!

I understood that completely.
>
>>>i told the judge i was awaiting the results of my application for
>>>provincial
>>>disability benefits,, and if they declared me disabled this would be a
>>>mute
>>>point,, and last month i was declared disabled,,,

I didn't realize, I thought you were declared disabled prior, my bad
for not catching that.
>>>
<snipped all the domestic stuff you did, we know you deserve alimony>

>> And she went to work to bring home the bacon.
>
>yes thankyou!!!! my exact point ,, i stayed home raised the kids,, she went
>to school to become a CGA,, i ASSISSTED her to become what she is as it
>happens in every marraige,,,
>
>my point - i deserve support like any other wife in a divorce where her
>husband is now making 85K

Exactly.
>
> Marriage is a
>> partnership, you both have to work to your own capacity.
>
<snipped a bunch more>
>>>i am entitled to support,,,
>>
>> Also fair.
>
>thankyou for aknowledging that

I was trying to see this in a fair is fair manner.
>
<snip>

>> No. More like fair, you had nothing to do with the renovation.
>
>ahh yes i did,, i started it,, i wired the room,, ripped up the floor,,
>fixed it resurfaced it,,, it was ready for drywall,, so yes i did have
>something to do in gettin this room on the back of the gaqrage ready,,
>pulled in phone lines,,, power, TV for high speed puter,,,

You left that part out of your post. I see why you think see's trying
to steal what is rightfully yours now.
>
>so,, what she is doin is trying to settle before end of august ,, so after
>that the reno is finished,, and the house goes up in value,,,
>
> Try
>> not to make your hate for her cloud your actions and make you less of
>> a man.
>
>so i am less of a man????? thanks,,

Man, Woman, whatever, when you let hate control your actions you
become less of a person. IMO.
>
<snip>
>> If you are truly thinking of living in a Luxury Yacht and think you
>> can maintain it and care for your self on it, I would question how
>> disabled you really are myself.
>
>go ahead question how really disabled i am,, i was just wishing out loud
>dude,,, !! but go ahead FLAME away thats why you are here isnt it!!!! just
>to stqart *** eh"!!!!!

Not at all, I was trying to make you see clearly through your hatred
for her. I don't see where I FLAMED you at all.
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>> If your getting enough money to buy a house with cash, and make lots
>> more investments with this (in your words) Huge settlement, why are
>> you looking for the government to pickup your bills and pay you more
>> money if you CAN support yourself?
>
>you totally missed the ENTIRE point of my post!!!!

I think maybe I did.

>your not helpfull your an ***,,,

Your attitude and conclusion jumping makes me think she's probably
doing the right thing in dumping your ass.

NOW I'm being an ***.

>i dont think it is wrong to want to have my own home, is it????? its money i
>saved up and made myself!!!!! from my home,,,,

Of course not!!!!!
>
> the law states i dont have to LIVE off this money ,,, i CAN invest it,,,

So do it!!!!
>
>i will need to be supported cause i AM disabled but i dont think you will
>accept this casuse you have no compassion at alll,,,

That's BS.
>
>i also stated,, should i go off disability until i buy a home and invest in
>a new RRSP savings plan???????
>
>so take your attitude and shove it,, murray

You go ahead and try to take her for all she's worth, and she'll try
to take you for all your worth, you'll both hate each other and both
of your's kids will hate you both, life will just be grand won't it.

>bobbyD

Did you even read this line before becoming such a prick?

>> I don't know your whole history, and use net is great for
>> misunderstandings, so please correct me if I'm wrong.

Name calling makes you sound so much better than myself, I'm not
worthy of posting my opinion on YOUR post.

Please forgive me for trying to help bobbyB. I hope it won't reflect
any real help I try to get from the group in general.

Murray


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