Re: My husband has diabetes


"Michael" <micoder@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
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W. Baker wrote:
Michael <micoder@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
: Paul L wrote:
: > Becki, it's admirable that you are here to help your husband.
: > : > There has been lots of good information shared with you here.
I'm going to
: > suggest that in the end it is up to him and it would be very
: > helpful for him to make the commitment to show up here
: > himself and exchange info with lots of us that have been
: > in the exact place he finds himself today.
: > : > best regards,
: > : > : > Paul : > : > : I agree with you post completely Paul. When I
diagnosed my wife in 1998, : I attempted to become the food police. This
is truly an idea doomed to : failure. Your spouse has to recognize the
seriousness of the disease and : make their own commitment to change
their life style.

: If that does not happen, I believe it is kinda like alcohol, the person
: with the T2 has to find their bottom. How sick do they want to get :
before they will do something about it?

: Sometimes the answer is sick enough to die. Hopefully her husband will
: cowboy up to taking care of himself.

: Michael

Michael, Often men have not been socialized to understand food,
nutrition, cooking, etc, they just "know what the like." It is often the
wife who has to take the lead in changing her cooking style as well as
the contents of the meal. That does not mean that th emen shoudl not be
on the list and learnd what is necessary for good control so they will
accept te changes in diet that the wife prepares. This may not be your
ideal, but it is the case for many couples.

Wendy

I too have been socialized to know nothing about cooking and leave that in
my wife's hands. Of course it would be great for Becki to take the lead
and prepare meals for him that will be good for him.

It is just that I would go a little overboard if I saw my wife eating
something that had any measurable carbohydrates in it. I in effect was
acting as the food policeman for her. I ruled out just about everything,
including carrots. I restricted her to meat, fish, eggs, and water. I was
truly obsessing about her diet.

After a while she got tired of it and rebelled. We fought about this for
about a day and then I realized that I had the wrong end of the argument.
She improved her own diet drastically, after I promised never to say
another thing about what she ate.

She ate the meat, fish, eggs, and water for about 6 months before she
started eating salads. This action on her part turned around her T2 and
almost all the fallout that goes with T2. My hovering and trying to
control her diet was counter productive.

Just something I had to learn Wendy.

You're lucky you didn't kill her with a diet like that! She could have
easily become constipated to the point of bowel impaction. Not good!


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