Re: Bad reaction to insulin? Hypo?


"Priscilla Ballou" <vze23t8n@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
news:vze23t8n-4295C4.21500220052008@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
In article <eVtYj.56$5H5.23@trndny02>,
"Julie Bove" <juliebove@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:

Well... If I had asked for ideas, then that would be one thing. I
didn't.
I asked if anyone had had this reaction before. I generally don't ask
people for ideas. That's just not my style.

I sympathize. There have been times on newsgroups when I was just
venting or sharing and got piled on with advice. Made me crazy and
people couldn't understand why I was telling them to leave me alone.
Some people are so solution oriented that they can't see how to do
anything else, and when you're not looking for solutions, it can be
horribly annoying to be inundated with them.

At the same time, it can be very hard for one to see a person starving
when one can see food within a distance from them that one could reach
-- so why can't they? One assumes the starving person can reach that
far, too, and the frustration can reach a peak if one doesn't listen to
the person when they say, "I cannot reach that far."

It takes a huge amount of detachment to recognize that the person cannot
envision or do what one can easily envision or even do. Sometimes one
cannot do anything other than watch someone starve to death. It's sad,
but it may not be possible for everyone to do what everyone else thinks
would solve their problems. Then one has to choose to watch or turn
away. The most compassionate thing to do is to offer to hold their hand
as they die of starvation, but most are not strong enough for that.

Then again, if one sticks around, sometimes the starving person figures
out how to reach that food they thought they couldn't.

That is true too.

When I was growing up, my mom had a fear of driving. At first she could
not do it at all. But my brother had serious medical problems and came
close to dying on many occasions. Or so I was told. She decided she needed
to learn to drive to get him to the Dr. so my dad didn't have to take off of
work. She managed to do this okay, I guess, when we lived in Wichita.

Then we moved to WA. No more driving on slow country roads. There were
busy roads to cross and cross them she would not. Nor would she drive on
the freeway. So unless my dad drove us somewhere, we learned to live in a
little square of about 2 or maybe 3 miles from our house. Our Drs. and
dentists were there, and for a while we had a dept. and dime store nearby.
Plenty of grocery and drug stores. And my dad was born to shop so on the
weekends we went to whatever other places she needed to go and couldn't get
to.

So perhaps because of my mother's attitude and the way she freaked out at
the mere thought of driving somewhere out of her comfort zone, this sort of
thing seems perfectly normal to me.

I have four friends who all feel this same way. For the most part we stay
within a few miles of our houses and can pretty much manage to get what we
need there. Or occasionally get someone to give us a ride somewhere else.
We have one mutual friend who loves to drive and doesn't mind driving long
distances, but going anywhere with her is risky. She does not take care of
her car and it has been known to break down in bad places. Plus she works
two jobs and finding a time when she could give someone a ride is not very
likely.

None of us see each other in person much any more. Why? We all (for
various reasons) live in different cities. When we met, we all lived in
Seattle. Now none of us do. When I moved back here from NY, I asked my
friend who lives in Everett if she knew where my Endo. was located. She did
not. It was not near her condo. and she had never been to that part of the
city. Luckily my dad figured it out since he worked in that city and knew
it pretty well.

My address is in Bothell, but I am just a hop skip and a yodel from Mill
Creek. I know that the next city over from Mill Creek is Everett. So I
kept asking my friend if she was anywhere near that? She didn't know and
implied that it was far away. She wanted to meet me somewhere for lunch but
she didn't know how we were going to do this because I didn't know anywhere
in Everett (not in the area where she lived anyway) and she didn't know Mill
Creek at all.

So I attempted a Mapquest to a restaurant on the main drag in Mill Creek.
As I said before I am useless when it comes to maps and even have a hard
time with the driving directions. I don't know streets and if I am going to
drive somewhere unfamiliar, the only way I can do it is to have someone else
drive the route while I write down the directions, using landmarks and such
as opposed to street names and numbers.

But this time it was amazingly simple. All she had to do was go down one
road, then make a left turn onto the main highway then follow it about 2
miles and make a left turn anywhere into the large, winding shopping
complex. But she was not so easy to convince.

We did have lunch but she had trouble following the directions and turned at
the wrong place. And it appeared that the short drive was very stressful
for her.

Perhaps the reason we all got together to begin with is that we have this
driving thing in common. None of us can read maps or follow street signs.
We all do the same thing when we are trying to go somewhere. None of us
gets upset if we can't go somewhere because it is out of our comfort zone
for driving. We just find somewhere else we can go for the most part.

I guess if you are not like this, you wouldn't understand. I don't know...
I learned a long time ago not to try to change people. They can do things I
can't. They are comfortable with things I am not. And not comfortable with
things I am. Like speaking in public or being onstage. We're all
different. If we weren't, the world would be a pretty boring place!


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