Re: Ping m

On Sep 14, 9:27 am, "m." <mxxxx...@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
"Anthony H Cole" <ahcole...@xxxxxxxxx> wrote in messagenews:a8054994-527e-494d-a9d5-8eabc59ebb24@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
On Sep 10, 11:27 am, "m." <mxxxx...@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:



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| "Anthony H Cole" <ahcole...@xxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
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|| Hi m
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|| It's 4:30 a.m. and I've just flopped out of Wikipedia. I haven't
|| forgotten you and hope you are doing O.K. I will write again when I
am
|| next awake.
||
|| Hugs
||
|| Anthony
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|
| Anthony -- You are so considerate! It is both noticed and very
much
| appreciated.
|
| It's too bad that you are all the way in Australia; I, as you might
| have guessed, am in the U.S -- on the East Coast. Based on what my
| newsreader states as your posting time, we are 12 hours apart. Were
| there not so much distance, I'd love to find a nice pretentious
| coffee-house and sit and wax philosophically with you. In lieu of
| that, this forum will have to suffice.
|
| I mentioned to two friends the acceptance of your Wiki submission on
| its emotion page. Both were impressed, of course. None of us have
| ever known anyone who has had their submissions accepted. In fact,
| none of us have ever known anyone who even tried! Bully for you!
|
| Although I am always happy to see a reply post from you, I am not
| expecting a rapid response every single time. THAT most certainly is
a
| burden, and that is not what this should ever become.
|
| So, I look forward to your replies when the time is right and the
| energy allows.
|
|
| Agape,
| m.
|
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Good Grief! I forgot to type in the emoticon ---

Sentence should have been: ".... I'd love to find a nice pretentious
{ :-)} coffee-house and sit and wax philosophically with you."

Take good care.
m.

Hi m

Coffee sounds good. Actually, anybody can enter anything into almost
any Wikipedia article. The trick is not to have it reversed in a
couple of minutes by one of the other hovering editors. So it is a
process of justifying your contribution to the others on the
discussion page. The Pain page is watched attentively by a few fairly
well informed editors.

It is fun to be able to communicate about something that means so much
to me. I'm a bit like the new kid in the sand pit, though. I suspect I
am driving change at a faster pace than they are used to and expect to
get put in my place any second now.

Can I ask you something? In an earlier post (July 28) you said:

I agree that there is a
relationship between pain and social sensitivity,
but I am wondering what causes that relationship
to be positive or negative.  For example,  you
said that with heightened pain your sensitivity
to rejection is heightened (a positive relationship).
In contrast,  when my pain levels are heightened,
my sensitivity to rejection decreases (a negative
relationship).  I suppose,  during periods of intense
pain I feel enveloped,  so much so that I am
protected.

I replied that instead of "sensitivity" I should have said
"vulnerability" or even "responsivity". I am far more deeply wounded
by rejection or rejection cues (when they get through) if my pain is
high; but my sensitivity/alertness to such cues (social acuity in
general) is blunted. I have an envelope too, and I think mine's there
to protect me from the social slings and arrows. So, in pain, social
pain hurts me more, but my social perception is impaired.

How does that compare with your experience?

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      Anthony
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Anthony  --  Your description is accurate.   "So, in pain, social pain
hurts me more, but my social perception is impaired."   I think that
could be a fair description for many people's experience --  the degree
of social pain is determined by the degree of blunted perception.  And
serious pain sure can blunt perception.

After living with chronic pain for so many years,  I am in more than
just a protective envelope;  probably,  it is better characterized as a
cocoon of pain.   I really don't attend to much of the everyday ordinary
slights that just happen in the course of one's day.   The only care I
might have would come from a direct and deliberate offense,  but that is
unlikely,  since I have removed as many as possible toxic people from my
life.  The rest just need to be avoided or ignored.

In the context of chronic pain and multiple illnesses,  this works for
me.  If life were different,  I don't know if I could/would be ignoring
certain social cues.  But life isn't different.

I hope all is going well for you.   Are your classes in session?

Take good care.
m.

Hi m.

Yes, I am nominally studying a unit called Social Psychology. Which is
interesting - but not as much fun as Wikipedia-ing! I have a test on
Friday which will be a challenge, since I have read only 2 of 6
chapters. How are you? Are you okay?

Anthony
.

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