Re: OT Bridal Shower Disaster!

On Aug 24, 10:31 am, angelsong <dhile...@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:
My lovely soon-to-be daughter was so afraid no one would come to her
bridal shower and that fear has come true. None of friends from her
work and social clicks are comming. None of her family from Ohio are
sending presents. (Her parents only pitched in $ 500.00 toward the
wedding which went a short ways - but it was all they could afford).
They love her very much, but.not financially able to help has much as
they might have wanted.

We pulled up the slack as best we can - but how can I beg people to
come to her shower if they don't know her? I want her to have the best
wedding and shower as possigle. any suggestions?

Angelsong

Angelsong,

I mostly lurk here, but I thought I would pipe up here.

I don't "do" work related showers. Period. Work does not equal
friendship, and work is work. If she works in a place with lots of
women, there is probably a shower/party about every four months or
something. Where I live, the cost of a gift is about $50+ for a
shower. I figure if I went to every shower than came down the pipe, I
would pay out about $600/year. The co workers are pleasant enough,
but would I see them outside of work? Nope. We travel in different
social circles and have different interests.

That doesn't mean I wouldn't give a card with a check for someone I do
enjoy working with. I just wouldn't burn off a weekend afternoon
doing shower games and watching a co worker unwrap the 20th piece from
their place setting.

Also, it is many work folks feel uncomfortable about coming to a
"family" shower, which usually means the group is shoved off into the
corner and ignored.

So...the work place may be just sending a "money card" around and will
give it to your future DIL at a later date.

Social clicks? Try having a couples shower/dinner at a bar or
restaurant. Especially is the group is small.

As for her family not coming....I'm going thru this right now. My SIL
is have a baby shower. She lives 5 states away from her husband's
family. Sent the invites too late for any cheapie flight bargins,
bonus-it is on a Sunday afternoon. It would cost me over $1000+
between plane flight, hotel, gift, and rental car. Sent the regrets
and SIL is blowing a nut that no one from her husband's side is
coming. I would rather send her the $1000 for a college fund, than to
spend all that money for 4 hours at a restaurant for someone I have
met once in 3 years.
Now I'm on her FOAD list. Oh well....guess it is the hormones.

Just cut the Ohio family a little slack about not coming. They maybe
doing something when the new hubby and wife come for a visit.

Angelsong, remind your DIL that is isn't all the hoopla at the shower/
wedding that makes a wonderful marriage. Plenty of folks have sunk $$$
$ into the wedding/shower industry, only to have the marriage crumble
in a few months. Don't beg folks to come.

Your DIL is getting one of the best gifts possible. You. A caring
mother-in-law. All the crappy over-frosted shower cakes and blah
gifts can't compare. DIL is getting your son. Maybe their marriage
last a life time.

Bat

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